Eureka O'Hara: We're Here / RuPaul's Drag Race

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We sat down with RuPaul's Drag Race personality and co-host of HBO's We're Here to chat Pride, body positivity, getting through grief, ice cream, dating...and more! Yaaas, girl!  

This is metrosource Menny, the officialpotcast to metrosorts magazine and home of short form interviews with yourfavorite personalities from the LGBTU world and beyond Qrit Fin andinformative. It's metral sorce on the go out in constance, Nane Nineo. Thisis mistes worth miny iber host Ou Beneodrge, where HR we're queer ut gestyour recalling here, a standing at six foor and that's without heeld, yellowrepresent for all the big girls and the Pluseye Dragg Supermoto of the world.Her Passion have led her. Co Compete on nine national stages before the age oftwenty six Overdina, of course, noin Ofer from teven Inin and a ruallGragrat and h BA show where youre renewed for season too, please Loe temYi. How are you out SI soin ou? I ot Yo sure, by the way, this oldthing you know, I just pulled it out: the hamper honey from last night Wenquak take tank nd. I was getting thank Fyou Idt start just for you.Utlet'sl talk about the wing Lak. How had daby on change from hitting theNational T v CHONL Drivra, you know, honestly, I I'm not a big dator. I mean I've tried.I actually just had like the most dramatic conversation with like my xthis morning, just like. Oh, my God. We love each other, but he wants hisfreedom and I an over he like. Well, I grow, I feel free. I don't know aboutyou and then we'r Tei. You know, I'm just Likei, don't know so I don't dodating very well, I'm just like really a romanticist, and you know everybodywants to be in opral relationships and sugos. I was dont even fool with itMama I li I want Romantics and the Fairyhal I nidn't man to write up on anoble, steed honey on the seed. I...

...you know Min A to Cin, oe, Nice Tin. TAK, that'sgoing to be like my teed Wy ill head, toit grorl right up on a bicycle. Mammajust have a job, but you thing you o Kindof, get alittle money, Youe Beit on Tiss appress toor life, for you have been nonsopsince on Dran race, Um, and you kind of want to share those moments. o You geta little time to get a little ron down. Don't you kind of miss that kind ofcompanionship yeah for sure you know, I'm very lucky wit a lot of reallygreat friends, though you know what I'm saying, and I I have my company fromtime to time. You know. L, the dotcoms are always quite helpful. Um, you know ut. Of course I would love to have arelationship which just like right. Now, at my my point in my life, I am justsuch a dedicated person to my work that, like I don't know, if I have theenergy's o really give to someone else like I would like to so. I guess I feelcomfortable, like I kind of like this, like moment of like confidence withmyself and just freedom and like enjoying it. You know for a moment, butG, I'm of course ready for the White, Pickot fiace and the love and there'sloneliness af times, but honestly with as much work as I'm doing and as manygreat friends as I have. I don't have time to be lonely 'cause like when youfind confidence in yourself and you'r like in the best place in your life.People want to be around you all of a sudden, so, like all of a sudden peoplejust won't leave me alone. Tsilihowabout. The friends were friendsand quote you know from the past that now that you know you're world famousnoher like pangral and you're, like no noo. You know that happened to me honestlywith drag rice kind of pretty quickly. Actually you know so I I don't know I feel, like I'm kindof filtered through that. Like phase of my life, where you know people werecoming out of the woodwork there's different times, we were comingout of the oordwork every time, you're on T V, but honestly, most of the time,especially with this show it's just people like appreciating the show andhow much they love it and like how much...

...they were late, and it's like you knowmore stuff like that weirdly. But you know it the one thing that people says to me alot that, like I'm kindo like okay, its do like. Oh my God, I love that theworld gets to see you for who you really are, and I'm just like. Havethey not owit's just nice for people to see ourdrag and an element, that's actually quite serious and human M and real? Youknow, there's such a real element to the show wat o about being real. You know theshow, drag race and now we're here. You know national show somebody living in asmall town in Idaho can wash the show and kind of envision, themselve beingwet you and, and your coast hars have become. It have been a huge advocateand to speak very openly about body positivity, and you know political andsocial climate right now, there's only buzz word. You know we want to cometogether at the community. We want to be inclusive and Gron a carve granaltoo yet body positivity and you woul, havethese skinny bitches that are talking about body positivity. But then I lookin my own daty life I' Look in a night out at the club and I'm not seeing theactual change on a day to day basis. I see it being popbout. Do you think thatbody ponsitivity is truly changing for the better within the LGBT community? No, of course, not a I religous Le Onest when it comes toimage, I think we're kind of like we're very materialistic people in theLjbichi community. When it comes to image, you know we can be very avain Um,but actually I m N. I do kind of think that it's changing in it's in a sensewhere it's you know, I think, what we're learning as bigger people anyway.I think what we're learning is that people can't tear you down. If youdon't allow them to write, it's a lot of Bot pop excuse me, a lot of bodypositivity is based on how we feel...

...about ourselves as bigger people.People can only care you down if you allow them to so when you come Inco,let's say the bar as a confident excited plus I was individual,regardless of what anyone else says. You have a chance to change people'smind by how you react to it and how you're acting- and you know, honestly,I'm very blessed with a lot of attention. You know even being a biggerperson Um regardless, because I think of just how I carry myself in theconfdence that I have as a person. You know, and I think that sometimes we isbigger. People get stuck in this mindset that Um, you know we're waitingfor other people to tell us that we look good or that we're hot and we'rewaiting for media to prove it and we're waiting for the people around us toprove that we're sexty B, the other person has going t able to prove thatshould yourself as you and if you walk out in your outfet, where you feel good,like other people, are going to find you attractive, it's really about youand it's like, I think, that's what we forget do. I think that media hasstamped and stopped and pushed an image into the world's mind. Yes, but I think sadly just like a lot of people whenthey want to create change for the communities, it's our job to teachpeople, otherwise not the other way around. Sadly, if we want to see change,we have to start changing that in ourselves. Write and not listen to thebullshit that the world tries to tell us and create our own rules. You knowand and push that message ourselve. So that's kind of what I try to do as faras like promoting body positivity, it's like just go out and beat yourself andlove yourself, because that's going ta actually inspire other people to do it.You know what I'm saying sorry I get on my soapbox, ver imprnt at it is true. You have totake ownership of it and yo all the time. You look at your instagram. You haveover five hundred and eight thousand followers who would imagine fir int upto instogram that you would be at that point, not that you easure actuallyutest your instogram, but what does it feel like to have n this audience thatlooks to you to be a force of...

...dispiration in so many different ways?Thank you for and noticing that and mentioning it. I just tried to appreciate it. You knowI try not to get intimidated by it. It can be very intimidating. You know Imean, I think, the trying to figure out what people want to see and you knowwhat they're going to like kind of comes with the territory for a while.But what I find is that most people just want to see you beingauthentically you like the post, Tha people at the most is like. If I decideto just work in my living room and the and the post is like watch them, cheepswork, honey, a thought I didn't work out. You know what I'm saying likeI'mjust saying Shit that I would say on a normal basis and being just who Inormally am that's the stuff people want to see and what they like. That'swhat they're inspired by so it it was hard at first, you know, 'cause, youget very intimidated by it, but once you realize like it's just about youknow, you can only post what you want to post and if people like it they like,if they don't, they don't and there's a lot of beauty in that, and people findinspration and ou us being authentically yourself. You know that's where I've gained. Somany followers, I think, is through a lot of like hurdles in my life. I'vejust been the same big old, loud, loving, messy Asho. I binsin you knowProb Bout, a high school, I'm just that Bich. You know I'm Jus Im big. I loud Imessy I'm too confident really for some people, but for me I'm just confidentenough and that's where you know people follow me: 'cause they're, like okay,thit's work. You know when you migt think for me you havesuch a big personality which can turn SOM people off, but I think we turn people off if it'sdone insincerely and I think part of the Keeyears excens and you R ind. Yourhuge Fandis is that you are very sincere with what you do when you'reallowed and pro that's actually who you are there's some other queen in thedrog world that are very loud, but it doesn't comefror Mu in Eur place that I see on I'm not going to mentionany name, but I think e Tat. We won't receipt. Mamma work, I'm GOINGTO, IPAOT,...

...but in terms of sharing who you are inyour life, you went, though, a very heart raking la we can o know aboutyour relationship with your mom during driver and go I Omoni too, like I a Maaboy, you know and tenhearing you you sharedabout the loss of your Monwige, which is a cuge thing to go through at anyage, but you of course, being so young. What is there's a lot of group in theLD bt community? Some people are restrained from their parens. Somepeople have lost their hairs, ard some people, an very lonely and they s Griev.What advice can you offer about how to handle grief but still continue um onyour life journey, with with confidence and and with some sort of joy? Yeah I mean honestly. I think it reallythere's no way to like. I can't tell anyone how to gree like the grievingprocess is. Very you know individual and perthe person and how you decide toagree was completely up to you. I think my biggest piece of advice in what Ihad to remind myself of a lot is my mom. Wouldn't want me to mess up myopportunities. My mother would want me to continue tofight for the success of my life. You know she was very proud of me and youjust have to remind yourself that, like whatever it is that you do like, youstill have bills to pay. You know whoever you lost as much as you lovethem. That person would probably like bench, do let your light bill get cutoff. Don't you know, don't not take a shower. Don't not. You know theelements that come with depression for missing people. Those people wouldprobably say to you or ll, get your life together. You know, they'lprobably say to you, grow and get your life together. So that's when you wantto just live your life and u try to be the best you you can like those peoplewould want you to be. You know the live in honor of those people versus likeliving in depression or living in sadness of missing them. You know it'sokay to grieve that don't give up on yourself 'cause. They definitelywouldn't want that.

I love that and that's definitely itdefinitely. I'm moving M emotioal CI Ol the men, but it it'ssuch a movie piece of advice. So I I really appreciate that I want to talkabout were here. What is what is it title? We're here mean to you. You know we're here, just kind of meanslike girl, we're everywhere. You know what I mean queers are everywhere getused to it, Theyain't going nowhere. I don't know when Yol are going to decideto just leave us te hell alone and let us of our life. You know so that's kindof what it means to me. Ans. It's like girl, we're here. We a't going nowherelike yeall alrady realized that Um and you know, Wereyour we're your teachers.You know your brothers, your sisters, your hairdressers where Youre makeapart is girl. We help make this world a little bit more fabulous. You knowwhat I'm saying. We also get a lot of great work done. You know, there'sartists, there's it's just we're not going anywhere! So get over, it is Cocawa N, where here sands were, butalso like we're here in a way where it's like. Well, we go into these smalltowns and we're here just like reminding that town were here, butwe're also reminding the people that we're working with that were here.There's other support in this town more than you realize, and that's why we weinvite the town to come, see the show and so that we can show those peoplethat are clear in this Communi, not only our daughters but people that arequeer or different, that there is support here. It might not feel like itsometimes, but there is so that's really what Wer here means is likewhich we're here, you know, regardless of the drag queen, show up or not. Yowere arting here. MWHAT is a moment from season, one thatstill sticks with you every nigh m once a moment from season. One ofwe're here that sicks with me every day, wood, you know, honestly, it was probably it was probablyperforming with Jasmine and stacy. In...

New Mexico Um Ford Dj there, there was an energy thatwas there. I could feel G J's presence around these people, and it was reallynot hard on me, but it was very emotional on me because I could feelthe presence of this loved one trying to be there and support their family. Itruly felt the energy of this, this Um, humor being that we were honoring andit just it touched me in away that ' I'll never really get that tiling again,I'm not sure in touched. My whole team, because I just remember the last nightwe were there Um after we did our performance. You know my my my designerbroke down and talked about how his sister had committed suicide. My M my assistant, was really distraught andwas talking to me about how he had lost his dad and his grandmother. Like I, mymom, my my make up. Artist had lost a friend to suicide, like so many peoplewere affected by this story and we all just ended up coming together and doingthis big roop hug backstage and just bawling together. You know- and it wasjust that a moment that, like of so much energy and love, but also sadness,but with that sadness, Wer so much memory that, like it was such apowerful moment like I don't even know how to describe it, but I know I'llnever had that m a moment like that again, you know what I mean. It wasjust so strong and powerful. I as crazy Wen Otul, ten episome meedy mibys Tukowt, and it was very haunting and whe N. I talked about the dragqueen. That wasthe episode that lane of Tet a a Pedlo. Oh it Al Really Yeah Wellokay Oter tothe Metrophortan miny. If we do what we do, T nife and curnt haes interview, soI finsh with a little rabpit fire. Are you ready for Litle Rabbit Fyer come onrapit vire come on come on in o e Chot me in the face you cant, get it by Ey is the biggest like girl. I can't evendeva on Werwi wic o the Treeofyou nthe...

...tre of US Yah. Oh no comment et me, Goa Goin, get me on this metro.Mamma alum have you hooked up with a fan fromdragre if they were gay? Probably my am actually a big fan of drag raysrandomly and he would get so paranoid that, like M, I didn't want to talkabout drag RAC. I was like no it's. My favorite show just 'cause we're fuckingOu e n. We can't talk about it. You knowum, you have relieased yoursingles stonm and bigromwhat. What were the name of your single be to describewhat your life had been like during our quarantyg Ooh? Go. That's a good question. Mistin girl, it would probably be named Um by polar sociopathic disorder, could be to that title, wio or CushCAKIC. Just order BYPAULA. I should have think orderb very I real popuar, conjact Eroh Tony's,don't come for us, honey all Righcan't, marryis plan, Netti,okay, Rock Matthew, Carson Crasley or room Halk, Kiss Mary Slag Kiss Mars Likis, I would kiss Rose Matthews for sore. I woul marry m PA 'cause. She got allthe coins. Ain't ven et warm as casly honey should be all right. Yo can even Bo a anet. In final, I awhat's the shadiest thing that you saw behind the scene on dragey. Theshadiest think I saw behind the scenes on drag rise. Yeah. Oh, that's, good,Um Shayo have us all behind the scenes ondrag rise,...

Umwell, that's hard to say 'cause. Isaw a lot of shady things happen. I just G. No, the shadiest thing I eversaw behind the scenes on drag rayse Um. I don't really know that. That's aweird question: what is the shade thing? Ier saw behind the scenes m. You know, like I don't know. Maybegirls, Lake conspireingaist other girls secretly. You know what I mean like.Sometimes the girls like team up and they like whisper and like ogirl. Let's go get her with this Blahblh blah. You know sound like the Uatin Nam. Do you want to name any names wh, I thought wil, you reovertfo Manis a tell everybodywhere they can find you you'll find me at my house. You can find me aegoher on all socialmedio platforms, but be looking for a season towe're here and you knowhopefully we'll be concerned for EMMI. So if you allare a part of the ECODEMY,please Vot oorfor, all Kinto gories, Yeah Grl Ilove have to talk to you muchmuch more. That has BEENPO homagazinedogod. You can follow me onintogram at Alezande Ionar. You can ti listen to Olivar at he fold, steatur inyour Fivrfullat Om art issues. Until that time, Tatril and Doyo Bo that has been another metrosorse mannylike Shar, subscribe on your favorite hodcast player and check out the latestissue of Metrihorse magazine on newstas are online at Meseforts. DOTCOM, followOnfacefo, instagreent, etetort and...

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