Eureka O'Hara: We're Here / RuPaul's Drag Race

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We sat down with RuPaul's Drag Race personality and co-host of HBO's We're Here to chat Pride, body positivity, getting through grief, ice cream, dating...and more! Yaaas, girl!  

This is metro source mini, the official podcast to Metro source magazine and home of short form interviews with your favorite personalities from the lgbtq world and beyond. Quick, Fun and informative. It's natur source on the go out in prown since one thousand nine hundred and ninety. Hello, hello, hello, this is metro sports. I'm your host, Alexander Rodriguez. We're here, we're queer. My guest, Yourey, going here a standing at four, and that's without he healed. Y'All, represents for all the big girls as the plus size drag supermodel of the world, for passion has led her to compete on nine national stages before the age of twenty six. Over a Gamer, of course. We know inlave her from season nine and and a rate and hbos hit show. We're here, renewed for season two. Whoop. Please welcome your Rick. How are you out? You? I love your shirt, by the way, this whole thing, you know, I just pull it out the hamper, honey, from last night. Wink, wink, tank, tank. Now I'm just getting thank you. I hadn't start. That's for you, but let's let's talk about the wink wink how has dating life changed from hitting the national TV show drive rate? You know, honestly, I I'm not a big dater. I mean I've tried. I actually just had like the most dramatic conversation with like my ex this morning, just like Oh my God, we love each other but he wants his freedom and I'm over here like well, I grow, I feel free, I don't know about you, and then we're just like, you know, I'm just like girl, I don't know. So I don't do dating very well. I'm just like really a romanticist and you know, everybody wants to be an open relationships and some girl. So I doesn't even fool with it. Mama, I lie. I Want Romantics and the fairy tale. I need a man to ride up on a noble steed. Honey, I'm the steed.

You know, an ice cream shop. That's gonna be like Mu Steed. Right, I'll take it, girl, right up on a bicycle. Mama, just have a job, but your things, you know, kind of get a little roomy. You've been on this press tour. Life for you has been nonstop since drag race and you know, sometimes you kind of want to share those moments. You get a little tired, to get a little run down. Don't you kind of miss that kind of companionship? Yeah, for sure. You know, I'm very lucky with a lot of really great friends, though, you know I'm saying, and I'm I have my company from time to time, you know, the docoms are always quite helpful, you know, but of course I would love to have a relationship. Is just like right now, at my my point in my life, I am just such a dedicated person to my work that, like, I don't know if I have the energy to really give to someone else like I would like to. So I guess I feel comfortable, like I kind of like this like Mama, of like confidence with myself and just freedom and like enjoying it, you know, for a Mama. But girl I'm of course ready for the white picket fiance and the love. And there's loneliness at times, but honestly, with as much work as I'm doing and as many great friends as I have, I don't really have time to be lonely because, like when you find confidence in yourself and you're like in the best place in your life, people want to be around you all of a sudden. So, like all of a sudden people just won't leave me alone, just like lit. How about the friends for friends in quotes? You know from the past that now, but you know your world famous. Now they're like hey, girl, and you're like Nope, no boo. You know, that happened to me, honestly, with drag rice kind of pretty quickly actually, you know. So I don't know, I feel like I've kind of filtered through that like phase of my life where, you know, people were coming out of the woodwork. There's different times we were coming out of the woodwork every time you're on TV, but honestly, most of the time, especially with this show, it's just people like appreciating the show and how much they love it...

...and like how much they were late, and it's like, you know, more stuff like that, weirdly, but you know, it kind of the one thing that people says to me a lot that like I'm kind of like okay, is they'll be like, oh my God, I love that the world gets to see you for who you really are, and I'm just like have they not? You know, it's just nice for people to see our drag and an element that's actually quite serious and human and real. You know there's such a real element to the show. Well, and let's talk about being real. You know the show drag race, and now we're here. You know, national show. Somebody living in a small town in Idaho can watch the show and kind of envision themselves being what you and your co stars have become. And you've been a huge advocate and speak very openly about body positivity. And you know what political and social climate right now, there's all these buzz words. You know, we want to come together as a community, we want to be inclusive and grow a curved girl too. Yeah, body positivity, and you we have these skinny bitches that are talking about body positivity, but then I look in my own dating life, I look at a night out at the club and I'm not seeing the actual change on a day to day basis. I see it being talked about. Do you think body positivity is truly changing for the better within the LGBT community now? Of course not. Girl. I mean, let's just be honest. When it comes to image, I think we're kind of like we're very materialistic people in the lgbt community when it comes to image. You know, we can be very a vain, but actually I mean, I'm do you kind of think that it's changing? And it's in a sense where it's you know, I think what we're learning as bigger people anyway, I think what we're learning is that people can't tear you down if you don't allow them to. Write, and it's a lot of body pit pop, excuse me, a lot of...

...body positivity is based on how we feel about ourselves as bigger people. People can only tear you down if you allow them too. So when you come into let's say, the bar as a confident, excited plus Aye individual, regardless of what anyone else says, you have a chance to change people's mind by how you react to it and how you're acting. And you know, honestly, I'm very blessed with a lot of attention, you know, even being a bigger person, regardless, because I think of just how I carry myself in the confidence that I have as a person, you know, and I think that sometimes we as bigger people, get stuck in this mindset that, you know, we're waiting for other people to tell us that we look good or that we're hot, and we're waiting for media to prove it and we're waiting for the people around us to prove that we're sexy. But grow the only person's gonna be able to prove that shit to yourself as you and if you walk out in your outfit where you feel good, like other people are going to find you attractive. It's really about you, and it's like, I think that's what we forget. Do I think that media has stamped and stopped and pushed an image into the world's mind. Yes, but I think, sadly, just like a lot of people when they want to create change for their communities, it's our job to teach people otherwise, not the the other way around. Sadly, if we want to see change, we have to start changing that and ourselves right and not listen to the bullshit that the world tries to tell us and create our own rules, you know, and and push that message ourselves. So that's kind of what I try to do. As far as like promoting body positivity, it's like, just go out and beat yourself and love yourself, because that's going to actually inspire other people to do it. You know I'm saying. I'm sorry, I get on my soap box very compoint. It is true. You have to take ownership of it and you know all the talk about you know, you look at your instagram, you have over five hundred and eight thousand followers who are imaging first up to instagram that you would be at that point. Not that you measure actually success through Instagram, but what does it feel like to have this audience that looks to you to be a source of inspiration in so many...

...different ways? Thank you for and noticing that and I'm mentioning it and I just try to appreciate it. You know, I try not to get intimidated by it. It can be very intimidating, you know. I mean, I think the trying to figure out what people want to see and you know, what they're going to like kind of comes with the territory for a while. But what I find is that most people just want to see you being authentically you. Like the Post that people lout the most is like if I decide to just torque in my living room and the and the post is like watch them cheeks work kind of Yall thought I didn't work out. You know what I'm saying, like just saying Shit that I would say on a normal basis and being just who I normally am. That's the stuff people want to see and what they like, that's what they're inspired by. So it was hard at first, you know, because you get very intimidated by it. But once you realize like it's just about you know, you can only post what you want to post and if people like it, they like it. If they don't, they don't, and there's a lot of beauty in that and people find inspiration and you just being authentically yourself. You know, that's where I've gained so many followers. I think is through a lot of like hurdles in my life. I've just been the same big old, loud, loving, messy as how I'll be in since hot you know problem about a high school. I'm just that bitch. You know, I'm just I'm being, I'm loud, I'm messy, I'm too confident really for some people, but for me I'm just confident enough, and that's where you know people follow me because they're like, okay, it's work, you know, when you are think for you you have such a big personality, which can turn some people off. But I think it turns people off if it's done insincerely and I think part of the key to your success in your in your huge fan base is that you are very sincere with what you do. When you're alloud and proud, that's actually who you are. There's some other Queens in the drag world that are very loud, but it doesn't come from a sincere place. That that I feel. I'm not going to mention any name, but I think that's what we won't receipts Mama where. Don't know it, don't...

...do. But in terms of sharing who you are in your life, you went through a very heartbreaking loss. We came to know about your relationship with your mom during drag race and girl, I'm a mama's boy to like I am a mama's boy, you know, and then hearing you shared about the loss of your mom, which which is a huge thing to go through at any age, but you, of course, being so young. What is it? There's a lot of grief in the LGBT community. Some people are strange from their parents, some people have lost their parents or some people are just very lonely. And there's this gree. What advice can you offer about how to handle grief but still continue on your life's journey with with confidence and and with some sort of joint yeah, I mean, honestly, I think it really there's no way to like, I can't tell anyone how to grieve. Like the grieving process is very, you know, individual and for the person. And how do you decide to agree with? Completely up to you. I think my biggest piece of advice, and what I had to remind myself of a lot, is my mom wouldn't want me to mess up my opportunities. My mother would want me to continue to fight for the success of my life. You know, she was very proud of me, and you just have to remind yourself that, like, whatever it is that you do, like you still have bills to pay. You know, whoever you lost, as much as you love them, that person would probably like, bitch, don't let your life, they'll get cut off, don't you know, don't not take a shower, don't not you know the elements that come with depression from missing people. Those people would probably say to you, Bro get your life together. You know, they would probably say to you girl, get your life together. So that's when you want to just live your life and try to be the best you you can, like those people want you to be. You know, live in honor of those people versus like living in depression or living in sadness of missing them. You know, it's okay to grieve, but don't give up on yourself, because they definitely wouldn't want that. I love that and that's definitely it's definitely I'm moving. No emotional,...

...because I'm very but it's such a moving piece of advice, so I really appreciate that. I want to talk about we are here. What is what is the title we're here mean to you? You know, we're here just kind of means like girl, we're everywhere. You know what I mean? Queers are everywhere. Get used to it. Ain't going nowhere. I don't know when Y'all are going to decide to just leave us the hell alone and let us of our life, you know. So that's kind of what it means to me. It's like, girl, we're here, we aren't going nowhere. Like You'all already realize that and you know we're your where? Your teachers, you know, your brothers, your sisters, your hairdressers, where your makeup artist? Girl, we help make this world a little bit more fabulous. You know I'm saying. We also get a lot of great work done. You know, there's artists, there's it's just we're not going where, so get over it, ha ha ha. It's kind of well, I think we're here stands for, but also like we're here in a way where it's like what we go into these small towns and we're here, just like reminding that town we're here, but we're also reminding the people that were working with, that were here. There's other support in this town, more than you realize, and that's why we invite the town to come see the show, is so that we can show those people that are queer in this community, not only our daughters but people that are queer or different, that there is support here. It might not feel like it sometimes, what there is. So that's really what we're here means. Is like, Bitch, we're here, you know, regardless of the drag queen show up or not, y'all were are here. What is a moment from season one that still sticks with you every day? What's a moment from season one of we're here that sticks with me every day? Would you know? Honestly, it was probably it was probably performing with Jasmine and stacy in New Mexico for DJ...

...there. There was an energy that was there. I could feel DJ's presence around these people and it was really not hard on me, but it was very emotional on me because I could feel the presence of this loved one trying to be there and support their family. I truly felt the energy of this this human being that we were honoring and it just it touched me in a way that I'll never really get that feeling again. I'm not sure it touched my whole team, because I just remember the last night we were there, after we did our performance. You know, my my my designer, broke down and talked about how his sister had committed suicide. My my assistant was really distraught and was talking to me about how he had lost his dad and his grandmother. Like I, my mom, my my makeup artist had lost a friend to suicide. Like so many people were affected by this story and we all just ended up coming together and doing this big group hug backstage and just bawling together, you know, and it was just that a moment that like of so much energy and love but also sadness, but with that sadness were so much memory that like it was such a powerful moment like I don't even know how to describe it, but I know I'll never have that moment like that again. You know what I mean? It was just so strong and powerful as crazy. What to tell you? That episode really really stuck out and it was very haunting, and I talked about the drag queen. That was the episode that we discussed as well. So it's all really yeah, okay, you know, this is a metal sorts and mini, if we do it, we do nice and cord had these interviews. So with a little rapid fire. Are you ready for little rapid fire? Come on, rapid fire, come on, girl, come on me, shoot me in the face. You don't get it my eye. Who is the biggest? Like girl, I can't even diva on. We're here with which are...

...the three of you? And I have the three of us. Yeah, Oh, no, comment. Get me, y'all. I gonna get me on this. Metro Mama. All right, have you hooked up with a fan from drag race, if they were gay? Probably my actually a big fan of drag race randomly, and he would get so paranoid that, like, I didn't want to talk about drag race. I'm just like, no, it's my favorite show. Just because we're fucking up mean we can't talk about it. You know, you have released your singles stomp and big grow. What would what would the name of your single be to describe what your life has been like during quarantine? Oh, Gron, that's a good question, miss saying girl. It would probably be named bipolar sociopathic disorder. Be To that title right. KATHIC disorder. My Apolis, I dishondor yeah, very that. Nothing takes it. Johnny's don't come for us, honey, all right, Kiss Mary slay ready. Okay, Rock Matthews, Carson Cresley or Root Paul. Kiss Mary slag, Kiss Mary's like I would kiss Ross Matthews. For sure. I would marry Paul because she got all the coins as Westley Hanny should be all right thinking that in final a red fire. What's The shadiest thing that you saw behind the scenes on drag race? The shadiest thing I saw behind the scenes on drag race? Yes, oh, that's good. Shady behind the scenes on drag race? Wow, that's hard...

...to say, because I saw a lot of shady things happen. Just kidding, whatever. No, the shadiest thing I ever saw behind the scenes on drag race. Oh, I don't really know that it's that's a weird question. What is the shadiest thing I ever saw behind the scenes? You know, like, I don't know, maybe girls like conspiring as other girls secretly. You know what I mean, like sometimes the girls like team up and they like whisper and like Oh, girl, let's go get her with this, Blaa Blah. You know, stuff like that. Names. Do you want to name any names? All right, well, that has been Eureka for mental forces. Minis Eureka. Tell everybody where they can find you. You can find me at my house, you can find me at your ECO here, on all social media platforms, but be looking for season two of we're here and, you know, hopefully we'll be considered for Emmy. So if you are part of Academy, please vote work for all categories. Yeah, girl, I love you'll have to talk to you much, much more. That has been our episode. I'm your host and lead writer for Metro Source Magazine, Alexander Rodriguez. You can follow me on Instagram at Alexander is. On Air, you can bing to listen to all of our episodes, teaching your favorite clubs from our issues until next time, stay true and do you bow? That has been another natural source mini like. Share, subscribe on your favorite podcast player and check out the latest issue of Metro source magazine on newstands or online at natural sourcecom. Follow us on Facebook, instagram at...

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