Byron Lane: Princess Leia's Assistant, Author, and Cancer Survivor

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Byron Lane is a man of many titles. An Emmy award winning journalist, he served as Carrie Fisher's personal assistant, wrote and co-stars in Tilda Swinton Answers A Craigslist Ad, and is currently enjoying the debut of his first novel, A Star Is Bored - A Devil Wears Prada meets Postcards from the Edge. We chat Carrie Fisher, coming out, dating in Hollywood, and getting through chemo...again.  

This is metrosource Mentis, theofficial potcast Tometrisource magazine and home of short form interviews withyour favorite personalities from the lgvtq world and beyond quict fun andinformative, its metrosource on the Gou out in Cownenc Taiwell thers asmetrosource many s like your host Alexinder Rudger Ges. What do princesslay a ded, urentums, tilte, Swintin, pride, SAST and people maazine bestbook of Summer Haveing Common, I will tell you yrelan is an author, playrightandscreen writer, his debute novel is called a star is born and everybodyloves it. It's not a celebrity Atsistan Treglin to manage his eccentric andhilarious movie. Star boss, inspired part by Viren's time as assistant tobeeloved actress and one of my personal favorites carry Fisher Alan also coropRote ancoasters in the play till Tis winton answers an ad on Craig's list.What the Hell tecomedy hd that has sold out runs in New York, L, a SanFrancisco, London and Eniberd frince twice. He wrote an coars an last willand Testacle and award many web series about his testicular canter diagnoses,which screene it festivals around the world and he wrote at cosars in afuature film called harpes boy suffering, acanemy woodwinter Antaniapencer, which one best comedy an comicon among many other orders, huse aregional moword winner from hi time. As a TV news journalist, I'm tired ofreading his BIL plase hulk up piry lane they te Maeander nohow. Are you I'mveing, really great, I'm having a nice Saturday, yeah God get God. You havebeen involved in so many different aspects of the entertainment industry.I'm just reading your resume. You can see it's so many different niches fromfrom from novels to web series to films, independent films to journalism, butyou've been so involved in the entertainment behind the scenes. Is ithard to watch a movie read a book...

...whatever without analyzing it are you?Are you still able to enjoy entertainment, the good stuff, the goodstuff? That's pretty seamless is easy to just kind of coast through and enjoy,but there are definitely moments where I'm I'm noticing things and thinkingare. We still enact one what's happening, so I do have my. I do at mymoments all right. So, though, a staris board,which I read in one sitting, by the way I couldn'yp wit a dob, it's a work offiction, but it seems very real and intimate, especially though in yourreal life on history. Did you have any trepidation, with being so open withthe characters? PRISONAL issues I o deal with with hopos depression M in awanky father relationship, not to mention some real honesty about theentertainment industry. I just have found in my life that themore honest I am the better it is for for me for everyone around me and oftenwhen I tell stories about my own life and my own issues with depression andtherapy and working for Hollywood. Folks, most people are like me too, andthanks for sharing and and I relate nd- that kind of community building hasbeen really lovely to experience. So, for me it's like the more the Merrier,the more open I can be. The better. That's just been something that servesme. You know thought I have to know what was thefeeling like when you open the box and there is your debt nothole hot off thepress. You know the weirdest thing about getting the first. The first copywas H, I' I'd only seen it in in photos onpeople's instagrams or whatever people who got advanced copis because of thepandemic. Nailing was delayed and in all those pictures it looked like thebook was enormous and I was g scared, ofus toget, this book that was likehating have by Alervan like a giant eyepet size, but it was normal sizee.So that was really my first reaction, but I had already kind of cried all myhappy tears. I I cried happy tears when...

...my agent, like did and when she agreedto be my ageent, and that was very beautiful woman for me. So I had mylandmarks of like emotional, emotional woment. So when I got the actual thingit was, I was ready for business. I was ready. Forit to get out there and getin more people's hands, you know working for carry fishacare becauseyou're, just so beloved among science fiction fans, the LGBT communityclassic Hollywood lovers. I mean she's part of Hollywood royalty m. Sheherself Um. You know a definite name for herself with with certain feelingsand emotions that you can't help but feel every time you would hear her name,the good and O bad. What were some of the most important things that knowing carry and your friendshipand working with her, has taught you for everyday life. Her sense of humorUm, spread to every moment of my time with her even just running casualerrands was Super Fun lighthearted and I think for me, bigtakeaway, from my experience with her was just that like not to take next tooseriously, that you can find humor in anything that humor heals, and I wouldsay that that's Um, that was some of the Carrie, was just super fun and in a bighearted, loving way, and I'm lucky that I got to experience that and see whatit looks like to live. Your like that way- and I I try to take a little bitof that into my end of my own life on my own journey since I sence my timewith her. You know W and thet energy certain bleed througha stars board. I mean what the characters say and go through. You readthe whole book with a smile and you get to the end and it's so bitter sweet.You know it's it's. It's really emotional 'cause you're, really bondwith these characters and humor is so important for me as well and beforegetting through everyday thing. I think that's what a lot of people need needto to hold on to and to appreciate it never lose ti sense of humor, yeahilyis. True,...

...very true, especially in today'sclimate. You know everybody is so angry for good reason, but sometimes you canjust take a breath and a d and have a good laugh for see, seem o Humor, I'bean hiking a humor, my housit today I loner o Ben. What is it Flor? You know on Saturday morningwe're wearing right. I love it. It's very cool! I Tek you all right so lastwilotestical is your web series about your cancer diagnoses? U Than Not onlyare you going through a quarantine right now m like the rest of us, butyou started Khemo again, yeah tell me what going through Cemo againdoes to somebody mentally and and how do you get through that? Well, so my pesticular cancer diagnosiswas first five years ago and they took out the the testacle with the cancerand then all of my two remarkers and and all that went back to normal, andso the doctor said you don't need to do chemo now you can just keep coming in regularly will dotest, and if it comes back it comes back and we treat then so I did thatand sure enough, like almost at the five year mark, I went in for anotherscan and it showed the cancer had returned in some love notes. So I'vebeen doing io for that, and I kind of I don't know this has been a. This hasbeen an interesting experience. 'cause, I was sort of the cancer thing happenedso long ago that I already went through that phase of accepting like a sort ofsense of Um vulnerability and mortality Um, and sothen now having to deal with it again. There's a little bit of me. That's like nervous. Will it ever really end? Theysay that this kind of cancer is curable and like in more than ninety percent ofthe case, is this treatment knocks it out and it never comes back, but Ithink I'm going to have like that. Little nagging part of me now, that'salways like H, live a little bit more to the fullest. You know 'cause, younever know, and that's a very, but I say that is optimism. You know I'm I'mgenerally a really positive thinking,...

...person and so m. i M. I am ready to m, see what happens next. I saw this thingspray painted on a sidewalk in Lla, someone spraended M, live this life,and so I really do try to just embrace that like this is my journey whateverisahead, we'll deal with it. So that's kind of that's kind of where I am, andI mean Kemo has been unpleasant at moments, but it hasn't been as bad assome of the other people next to me in that room. So I do. I do go in it withsome gratitude that it's not the worst it can be, and I'm really just. I amlooking forward at it all being behind me, though well and it's interesting we're inCorantin, which can be so isolating in o a number of people, especially fromthe lvt community, have this isolation, islad from friends, family and there's,there's a you know. Depression is very rampant right now and I can imagine andfrom what I've seen with cancer within my own family is. You know people feeland an feel bad, and they want to support you, but going through Cemo andgoing through a cancer diagnosis. Is it's very much on your own and it'svery um isolating and having to go through it? It is your journey. It isyour mortality that couple with Quorantine M. do you have any tints forsomebody that might be going through a depression from feelings of isolation? Gosh I mean reach out to whoever you can I mean I'm,I'm fortunate that I live with my boyfriend, stepen andhe's been awesome, and I have a little dog Tilda who's beside me snoring andthey both bring me a lot of comfort and joy and love. I've also I've also beenin derapy for years and years and years, and I have a huge stack of self helpdbooks. So I feel, like I'm filled with. U Tools that help me when I havefeelings of depression and anxiety, and so I guess I would just encouragesomeone who might be experiencing the same thing to reach out to someone whocan help. There are also lots of like...

...online resources and chat rooms thatare that are free where you can find a licensed therapist and some sometimesyou can find people who just want you ere just to beable to listen, and sothat's IB reach out you're, not alone and and Gosh. There are a lot of peoplewho are isolated right now. This is a really weird time very weird time, so you mentioned yourboo and I just had to ask you you K Ow, I'm in he entertainment industry aswell. You haveseen somebody signs of it like we said you came out of it with a bow. You KnowHow lucky you are. I know I know it's so crazy. It was reallcpit Ha on O K, cupid. Oh,you was Goin to ask you how Di Coise me and what tepts do you have for datingin the entertainment industry 'cause. I need some Olp it. It was hard I meanfor me. It was. I just had this thing in the back of my head, that it was anumbers game, and so I was just going on dates and dates and dates and dates,and I do remember when I met Steve Um, we we met O okay cubid. I thought hispoopil was so funny and then we talked on the phone and then we met at a pinkBerry and when I left that I called a friend of mine, my Freniva and I said Ithink I had to commit my husband, like this jis, very clear to me. It was justso easy and so lovely- and maybe I had the sense of that fromyears and years of of dating that I kind of had a sense of what felt rightand what felt force and things with ste were just so lovely and easy, and I wasalso, let's see, I'm forty one now abouten forty two ND. Sothis was seven years ago. So I was you know in my thirties and I I had not hada serious relationship before Steve So um, so it just hangin there. That's whyavice everyone just hang in there follow your heart. You know, I will sayone thing I liked about okay cupid is you could answer all those questionsand m, so you could weed out a lot of a lot of the areas where you weren'tcompatible pretty early on.

So so that's my pitch for Okay Cupid,but my my big picture thing is just keep going. There's there's someone foreveryone, and- and you got this- you got this friend but all those questions.I have no patience for that, like even my grinder profile slike. I'm here H, I say put that put that in answerall your questions. Withdon't have time for this and then someone like Kayi di me we're celebrating pride this season.What was your coming? outstory Oso, my coming out story was Um revolved aroundthe film titanic and Lenorder a Caprio, a God. I still have magazine after magazinewikly when Yo came out of like fen e Ti brome Julia. I still have calendars. Iam Aleofreak you ar talking to my person am hey temade. He was MI. He waslike my first like crush crush and TICANIC was out and I'm from a kind ofa conservative family and I went home and was chatting with my sister. Myparents were divorced, it was a mess and I was shuthin with my sister andthen, and I told her she was the first person I told she had she had a posteron her door. Titanic poster and Leonardo was on one side and Kape wason the other and theyere. I kindof positioned myself, like where Kate wasas if I was going to kiss him and then so that was my coming and then she told my dad my dad had hada family meeting. It was all a little bit messy, and that was that was many years ago.That was just when I was getting into college and U, they have come a reallylong way N in their journey of acceptance and all that stuff. Butthat's how it started we're in a very interesting priveseason this year from fror many different reasons. What does pride meanto you this year, different than any other pride season? WPRO Probay, I sucha personal thing Um. You know I will say I I mean eeing ofpride. I feel really proud. I feel...

...really proud of our community. The waywe've stepped up to help other marginalized communities as a gay man. I just feel like we areexperiencing a period of visibility that we haven't experienced beforethanks to the many brave people who came for us. U And I'll. Tell Yo, likeI said, coming coming from a conservative family. This is this isstill even even as I enter. My forties is still a new feeling for me, thisdisfeeling of of being really proud to be gay and Um. So I think that's whatI'm going to mark this year's pried with is celebrating that I actuallyfeel such a heart felt sense of pride in our community. I I absolutely love that. Okay, are youready to play a little racqit fire? Yes, let's see what happens? Oh, my God.Okay, a most awkward, celebrity meeting m! Oh my God, I'm terrible at this Aus,I'm not very rapid. Am I I'm trying to think who I've met or whatever e, Iguess my my first, the first person I ever met was h: Sean Linin, a Johnlinson, and that was tcary and she said Um, I'm GONTA GIV introduce to your firstcelebrity, and so we were in New York and she was friends with him andinvited him to the talroom I over the door and he's so kind and so cold wasthere with a top hat. Just it was like you couldn't, have scripted a better, abetter eout, but it was really as like hello and then I got out and let themhang out, and so that was my mo okay guilty pleasure, TV or movie thatyou're watching during quarantine. Oh I've been watching, we've been watchinga lot of the old school stuff like Air Force, one a lot of Tom Cruise movies.We just watch that lived. I repeat: What's that one...

...where he keeps h dam tomorrow or dayafter tomorrow, or I don't know I don Cao. I love that Oit emoly blood, yeahY afort, an Ya Wen a oolpyes. They changed thin. They were going to changeit to Lif. I repeat, I don't know something like that, but athat's whenmy guilty puasure we're going through like a Tom Cruise period. Really youknow what I'm addicted to are the old disasterle like airplane H, you knowseventy qor whenever posidon adventure Ha'd taken enough of it they're goodthey're born, especially during this time. You Know Yeah Biron. Whatcelebrity would you want to share your quarantine bed with quaranting bed? Yeah? Oh my gosh. I don't like, like who'se mycelebrity crush right now, Hatwas your hot at I'm into Jamesmacaboy's kind of my guy these days. Oh you lookd Panila pudding, but you noKili, Oh, who who's yours. How Arty? Oh that's a really good one! That's a Merto yeah yeah yeah! That's a really fun one! I like skinny Tom Hardy, chunkyTom Hardy, any Tom Hardy, a o Ri to se Rubia, which one OLCAPONYEA yeah lliterally it's on my list to watch tomorrow, a birn one thing you will never takefor granted again from having to go through temo. This is too big of an answer, buthealth. It really is true like like right now. I feel so good. I go soalive, I'm interested in the blue sky and the green grass, but when, wheni'not feeling well when the toxins ere in me, I I just just want to sleepthrough the whole thing, so my health really is is Fon senter Itake, you so much for chatting with.We can you turn you can find and follow you and where we can find your book. Sothe books available anywhere books are sold starting on July, twenty eighth,but you can preorder it now. I always...

...like to do a little pitch for if youhave a favorite local indiy book store or you can go to indy bound dot, workand typeinyours code and they can Heplo find a a cool place to support to localbusinesses, but other than that o one twitter, Byron Lane and HistegambyrelanDot Com and I'm on Baseboak Qirli. So I would love to connect. Yes for sure I am not even lying. So Idid get one of the avanced copies hat was perfectly sized by the way ND exateI- and I I literally just read it through the night, and I am so gladthat I di a UN Ojoy that has been on episode, Wof Biren, Laine, Ian, yourhost and leavrider for mentral sorce, Iazana Redrig. You can follow meon eIntogram, a aexanders on Eric and you can vinge listen to alofir episodes,becuring your favorite celebrity farm or metrosource issues until next timestay true stay you Dul Ambu, all right. I pe pride, everybody that has been another metrosorce. ManyLake Shar, subscribe by your favorite hodcast player and check out the latestissue of Metrosforce magazine on new stands Ar online at metafort. Dot Comfollow us on Facefu, Gaist, Tegrama metacort and on Catera let ECOR TanAOTHER STAT.

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