HBO Max' 12 Dates of Christmas with Corey Lay

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HBO Max continues its quest to represent the LGBTQ community in a wide variety of programming. To add to the mix of We’re Here, Equal, and Legendary, they have added a delicious holiday treat that is our current Christmas guilty pleasure. While stuck at home with nothing to do but post selfies and watch TV, what better way to pass the time than with some holiday cheesiness and a side of fun drama? HBO’s Max 12 Dates of Christmas, set in a stunning winter wonderland, follows three hopelessly romantic singles on their journey to meet that special someone to bring home for the holidays. The show features Garrett, a gay man looking for love. 

Corey Lay, a video game and app developer & fitness trainer, was among the contestants to try his hand at love. And while he didn’t make it to the end, he made a long-lasting emotional impression on the show. In showing his emotions, he hopes to be an example for younger people watching that it’s ok to put your emotions on display, not a weakness. Corey is an LGBTQ and black community activist with an adorable smile and winning attitude…we’d gladly spend New Year’s Eve with him…and even longer.

We chatted with Corey about finding love on reality TV, first date red flags, respecting yourself in the dating world, showing your feelings, and we tackled the hot topic of putting racial preferences on dating apps and in the real world.  

This is metro source minis, theofficial podcast to Metro source magazine and home of short form interviews with your favoritepersonalities from the lgbtq world and beyond. Quick, Fun and informative. It'smetro source on the go, out in proud since one thousand nine hundred andninety. Well, Ho, Ho Ho, it's the holidays. This is metrosource minis. I'm your host, Alexander Rodriguez, lead rider for Metrosource and avid podcaster. All Right, anybody else single? This Christmas guiltyHbo Max Continues Its quest to represent the LGBTQ community in a wide variety ofprogramming and adding to the mix of we're here, equal and legendary, theyhave added a delicious holiday treat. That is our current Christmas guilty pleasure.So I'll stuck at home with nothing to do but take selfie's and watch TV. What better way to pass the time then with some drama and some holidaycheese? Hbo Max Has Twelve dates of Christmas set in a stunning winter wonderlandand actual castle in Austria. Follows three hopelessly romantic singles on their journey tomeet the special sum when they hope to bring home for the holidays. Theshow features Garrett, a gay man looking for love, but cory lay,video game and APP developer and fitness trainer, was among the contestants to try hishand at love and while he didn't make it to the end, hemade a long, asking an emotional impression on the show and in showing hisemotions he hopes to to show younger people watching that it's okay to put youremotions on display. It's not a weakness. Corey is an LGBTQ and black communityactivist with an adorable smile and a winning attitude. We'd gladly spend NewYear's Eve with him, or longer. Please welcome Corey Lay. Hello,I'm so happy to be here, Alexander, thank you for having me. OhIt's such a pleasure. So I had to watch the whole season inone sitting and the reunion is now streaming too, so I literally watched it, watch the whole season. So we're going to get down to it.Okay, let's do it. Let's ask all the questions, let's figure itout. I grew up watching reality TV. I watch the real world, Iwatch the challenge, I watch the BATSTER and bats theorette. So realityTV is something that I've always really enjoyed as a consumer and when the opportunitycame around to potentially go on it myself and try to find love, therewas no hesitation at all. I said, let's do this, I'm going tomeet my other half, like it's all in on day one. AndYeah, I I grew up watching it and honestly wanting to be a partof it and then when it came around, it just it was like a dreamcome true. So what was the audition process like? Did you haveto submit a tape? was there a few auditions? What did they askyou to do? So it's really interesting. They actually messaged me on instagram aDM's. They said Hey, we're doing a Christmas them dating show.Would you be interested? And literally within...

...like five minutes I just said yes, let's get on the phone, let's talk. And so, because Iwas one of the last people cast, from beginning to end, from thatfirst DM to being on a plane to Austria, it was a little overthree weeks, I think, and I did not need a single person inreal life until I so it was a lot of zooms, a lot ofphone calls a lot of questionnaires on what do I like, what I don'tlike, and then it was it was so fast for me. There weresome people who did go through like fly to La, do the audition loop, all that kind of stuff. But I don't know, I just gotlucky, I guess, and they liked it, they saw. Well,I have to tell you, three weeks is a really short time for realityTV casting, I think. Well, yeah, and this was before Covid, right. Yeah, so we successfully wrapped filming safely and stuff by atthe in the middle of March, like right before everything shut down, rightbefore covid went really crazy, and we actually finished, finished filming in Austria, I think the first week in March. So we flew back and then wefilmed the stuff in Louisiana Garrett's house. So we were just right on thecutting like the cutting edge of that. Yeah, block of that what.It's funny that they slid into your dams. Your social media is fire. I mean we get muscles, we get shirtless, we get some boating, we get a lot of boating. A Oh my God, that onepiece like Romper that you had with like the radier and coming through. Yeah, yeah, I think it was like episode two. You turned around inthe camera and I was like, Whoa, that's that's a booty. Oh myGod, thank you. So I do not skip leg day. I'malways doing my squat. So, you know, I try, try mybest. You know what, if I listen to a fast paced song,that's my cardio and then I call it a day. So, cory,you kind of went in with a total open heart. That we saw rightoff the bat. But did you really think that it was possible to findlove on reality TV? And do you think now that it is possible tofind love on a reality TV show? So I did think that I couldfall in love on a reality TV show. I told myself that if someone outthere is crazy enough like me to go on a Christmas them dating show, we're already a little bit of a match because we're both like taking thisleap. And the way that I saw it was it's going to be accelerated, it's going to be fast, we're going to skip all the bs ofnormal dating and just like get down to can we work, can we notwork? And it didn't work for me, unfortunately. Through my experience on tolddays of Christmas but I saw it with others. I saw it withAnthony and faith and I saw it with Chad and kate and I am stilla believer it can happen. I mean Chatt and Kate, spoiler, they'reengaged and they just moved in with each other and that is what I thoughtcould happen to me or what's going to happen to me, and it didn't. But I believe in it now more than ever because I literally went throughit and saw it happened right before my eyes. It's very interesting your perspective, having been on the show and me watching it, binge watching it,some of the relationships and I and things...

...that I I'm sure that you gotto feel. You know, due to editing, might not have come acrossthe whole faith anthony relationship. I wasn't sold on and I'm still not soldon it. It's so it's very interesting. But your your journey and watching yourjourney I saw so many things that you did that I tend to doin my own dating life that didn't work so well. You seem to fallin love so fast, so strongly, and looking back at the show,did you think those feelings were real wasn't that a bit too much too soon? So the thing is, I was going on a dating show, soI'm not going to hold myself back. I will say in in in reallife, if I'm dating someone, I don't necessarily so. I do showup and I'm always myself on day one and I tell him exactly how Ifeel, but I don't necessarily throw myself that much. I knew I onlyhad a specific amount of weeks to get to know Garrett before he would meetmy family, I would meet his family, and that is what I came intrying to do. So yes, I did go very strong, andI just think that's the point. If you're coming into this experience and you'renot able to open yourself up and throw yourself off of the cliff of love, then I just don't know if it's the right thing for you, becausethis is not real life where you can wait twelve months before you get toknow somebody and get to take them home. And I did come on strong.I wouldn't have changed anything about my experience. I mean, ultimately,the stuff Garrett saw from me he was going to probably see eventually. SoI don't I don't mind that honestly, me and Garrett are actually very goodfriends now. We talk all of the time and it's just we had adifference of where our connections were at the time, and you know, that'stotally fine with me. But do you think you can fall in love aftera few days, after if these, is that a real love feeling?So I in my life I have aunts and uncles who got engaged after twoweeks and they've been together for over thirty years. So I am a believerthat when you know, you know, and you can know quickly. Andto be fair, I never said I was in love with Garrett. Iwanted to spend time with him and get to know him, and a lotof my disappointment through my experience came from feeling rejected, feeling like the rugwas pulled from underneath me. It wasn't necessarily I wasn't professing my love.It's just I wanted love, I wanted to fight for love and I wanteda chance to be seen and heard, and that is really where my frustrationcame from. But you are still single, right I it's still single. Yes, now, did your DM's just like change overnight once the show premiered? Like Hay Garup. Oh my God. So I've definitely got a lot ofdeals from game and you know, also got a lot of dams fromwomen and people who were just like I see you, I feel you.I've been through that. Thank you for just like being vulnerable and sensitive,because, like a lot of people are...

...and I think they're afraid to justshow that side of them. So it's been a mixture of like Thirsty Hay, Cory R hot, and then it's also like Corey, I understand you. Thank you for standing up for us, the sensitive people, and just expressingyourself the way you did. Well, and I love that they put agay man into Strang people, because we saw a little, you know, some of the similarities of what the dating life is like, regardless ofyour sexual orientation. We see what kind of games people can play, wesee the emotions that can happen. But straight men watching to watch hot faithwill see men be emotional on all different sides, and so I love theidea that your storyline reached a lot of different people. Yeah, you didshow a lot of emotion and as gay men, when we cry or Emote, there's a general reaction to roll your eyes and be like, Oh God, that Queen is being overly dramatic. Oh God. Yeah, you wantedto show a different kind of side of that. Can you explain a littlebit more? Yeah, so I like, I'm obviously a gay man, butI'm also a black man, and black men, when the way they'redepicted in movies, TV shows, reality TV, it's very one dimensional,like you have to be strong, you have to be angry, you can'tshow your weakness as you can't be vulnerable, you can't cry, and I wantedto come in here one hundred percent myself and if I would have cried, I guess what, I'm going to cry because I think people need toknow that it is okay, you're not weaker by showing your emotions, andthat's just that's how I live my life and on this show, with thisaudience that's going to be watching it, I just knew in my heart thatI couldn't show up and suppress any part of me pretty much. So let'stalk about your role as a black man on the show. That's a hottopic and I really wanted to talk about it with you. Because you areso candid. Something that was brought up in the reunion special that chest aired, by the way, on Hbo Max, The joke was made that faith,the straight girl on the show, was clearly only attracted to men ofa darker color and it was kind of brought up during the season. Butyou know, it was a big, funny joke at the reunion and it'sfunny that Garrett's first contestants were you, a black man, we had anAsian man and then we had a Latino and then the white guy started toshow up and then Garrett was like, Oh God, I'm in love now. It was like there was the diversity check for game and although we didn'thave any Husky guys, I want to point but season two may maybe let'slet's, yeah, tell them, yeah, hello, hello, waits be allMax top big girls need love to but I saw a double standard inthat we could joke about faith only being attracted to to to darker men,and would have made been made about Garrett, which I think it was a littleobvious that once the white guy started to come up, he all ofa sudden was chasing after them having these love kind of feelings. But ifthat was said, the whole gay nation...

...would have gone crazy saying you can'tsay that. You know that Garrett was only attracted to white men. whichbrings me to the whole grinder debate. You know you're attracted to what you'reattracted to. You can't physically tell your body to be attracted to something,you just naturally respond. But why is it not okay to be open ona grinder profile and say I'm not attracted to this, or even in reallife saying I'm not attracted to whether it be a you know, ethnic backgroundor a body type? Why, as a gay community, are we tryingto dissuade that? I think it comes down to respect. Like, firstoff, to talk about faith and her attraction to black men. So whenshe had white men in front of her, she still went on a date withKevin. She's still talked to wells, talk to Tyson. She did notjust disrespect these people and say, Oh, you're not my type.You can't even spend an an ounce of time talking to me. And Ithink when it comes to now talking about like the gay side of things,and honestly, at one I would I just want to say I do notthink Garrett does not date men of color. I mean I actually think he prefersLatino men. From what I've seen and looking at his diverse friend group, he does have friends from everywhere. Like I don't want Garrett to takethe narrative that he does not date or gives people of color like less ofa chance with him, like I honestly think him and I did have aconnection in a spark and I will defend that. He does not like Idon't think it's a colorism thing with him. I know that it's very big inour community but, like I just I will refuse to say that aboutGarrett. The grinder thing is really just if I'm sending a message to someone, for example, their response should not be I'm not attracted to black men. That is disrespectful, that is rude. If you're not interested in me,just say yeah, I know, do casual small talk and then juststop the conversation. You don't need to say I don't like black men,you're not my type, you're ugly, all of these things, because whatdoes that do? It's a form of cyberbullying. It hurts, it itbrings APLES and securities out. People have committed suicide over things like this.So I think there is just a level of respect and how we communate,communicate with each other as gay men, that should be upheld. I don'tcare if you like black men, just don't fucking treat me like trash.Like, if I want to talk to you, talk to me, andif you don't want to talk to me, don't talk to me. But like, just don't say brue things. That's what it bows down to.I don't I do you people's body is or whatever their attracts, what they'reattracted to, but the last thing that someone needs to do, or Ineed to do, is make somebody else feel like they are worse or lessthan. And when you see someone's profile says no blacks, no thems,no Asians, whatever it's going to say, that is just what is the point? You don't have to talk to everybody, but you don't also needto make them feel like they're nothing. You know, and I was,I was playing devil's advocate with with the whole Garrett situation. Yeah, andhow reality TV can edit things and how a community can also grab onto onething when there's a full narrative, and I love what you said about communicationand respect. I think respect has gotten...

...lost in the dating world in general. I think we're so quick to jump into bed with somebody, we're soquick to be sexual about it, and I know you know the gay communityhas a bad rap because, I mean, and we even found out twelve dates, Garrett could even keep it in his pants. But we become sooverly sexualized, which is a big part of any relationship. But it allcomes down to respect, and the more respect you show others, it's alsorespect for yourself as well, and I think we need to get back toan old fashioned, respectful level of of dating, not meaning you can't havesex when you want to have sex, but that it's based on actual communicationrather than Dick picks or the top bottom verse. And you know what,I found even hookups, when you connect with somebody, it makes the hookup even hotter, if you want to put it on that level, ofcourse. Yeah, it is not just about, like I want to feelpassion at the old at the end of the day, I do. Youcan tell, like I'm a very passionate, emotional kind of person and that's whatdrives me. Like sex is sex, but like I want sex with passion. Otherwise, like, I don't I don't need you. You knowwhat I mean. Yeah, I really love that theme of respect in anything, whether it's a hook up, whether it's a first date, whether it'sa first year and anniversary. Okay, what are your tips for a greatfirst date? Yeah, I so great tips for first date. I wouldsay show up and get to know the other person. Don't make it allabout you. Don't talk about you, like what you don't like, whatyour dreams are like. You really want to connect at the other person.So ask questions, ask follow up questions, like actually make a concerted effort ingetting to know this person, because at the end of the day,if you're with somebody for fifty years, their looks are going to fade rightwhat matters is what they believe in and how they talk and how you guyshave a rapport I think stay optimistic. Don't talk about X has. Isaid that in my interview on the website, like don't talk about X has.It just makes me think that you are not over your ex and ifyou bring up an x and the first date, I'm not going to havea second date with you. I'm sorry, like eventually we'll talk about that andwhatever, but like, I just just don't want to cross that line, whether it's positive or negative. Don't mention your ex please, I don'tcare. Let's just move forward and go on from that. And I reallythink just try to have fun. Everyone is so serious. Like I likefirst days to be an activity, things that we can distract ourselves with.Maybe just be a little bit competitive and flirty or whatever. But like,I hate dinner dates. I don't want to do a bar where we're drinking. I don't want to be one of the people either. Like a gayBar for first day is trash. Do not ever take somebody to a gaybar and a first date. You're never going to make a connection. You'regonna have all these other men that are just like looking at you and justlike, I can't. It's just weird. So yeah, do something fun.Go play golf or Frisbee or just something in a part. You know, it's funny you say don't bring and so many dating experts say don't bringsomebody to a bar or you know,...

...especially in the gay community, butit's very funny. What I wish people were to do more on a firstdate is just be who they are. Three months later, you know,everybody's on their best behavior, dressed in their best outfit. Go to anexpensive restaurant if you like to eat at Sizzler, go to censer on yourfirst date. If you want to order and express and like drive somewhere,do that if that's who you really are, because I would rather find them upfirst. So if somebody goes to the bar often on the weekends andthey're nightlife person, if that's who they are and that's what they usually do, then I think that they should do that on a first date and youcan say right there, Hey, you know what, that's just not that'snot the environment. I don't want to spend my week hands at the Abbey. Boom, boom, boom. Yeah, no, that is a that isa very good point. That is a very good point. You showup as you are, be yourself. If you want to go to abar, go to a bar. That maybe not. That's not the bestfirst aid idea with me specifically, but for the other person that you maybe going a date with, maybe they'll love it and you do end uptogether, get married, of kids, all that stuff or whatever you want. So yes, so up as you are ignored my advice because apparently just, you know, do do what you want. I don't know what I'mtalking about. I'm still spin around your single and I'm still single. SoI don't know. But you know what, I think it's because we've learned thatthis is what we want and this is what we're not going to putup with anymore and I'm not going to waste three months kind of, youknow, testing out the water. I've been there, done that, andthen there's three months that that have gone and again it goes back to yourtheme of respect. When you respect yourself, you're not you're no, you're notgonna you're going to see red flags and that's going to be enough foryou, because you're going to move on and there will be somebody out thereand having fun. I think is so important. I think that's one thingI got from watching Garrett is that he was so serious and they're the wholelike fun aspect was kind of forced and it really wasn't natural. Maybe he'sjust not a fool, but I will say in in regards to that itis a very stressful situation. Being Cona, it was stressful for me, whichis why some of my emotions came out the way that they did.And for Garrett to be the person who's making all of the tough decisions.who gets a date, who's goes home? Who am I going to spend timewith? Like you know, I think it's just tough for anyone.I do not. I do think he was fun. Like I think aboutour day, like our apple strudel date was so fun, and episode three, like you only see like our conversations in there, but we set therefor I saw you having fun. Well, well, I'm also I'm very goofyand silly and I like making jokes like about myself. So, yeah, that's just how I do my humor. So, like I had my littlelike thing on my face and stuff, not like that. Will we werejust like an hour and a half, literally an hour and a half,making this apple strudle, baking it and all of that, and itwas so fun. It's just I think some of the tensor conversations are kindof what come through, because those are what's important to like our connections,and that's what you see drama. Yeah, yeah, yeah, it's funny whenthey have gay guys go on a...

...cooking or a baking. It's like, bitch, they don't eat. Look at their wayside that they don't eat. That was like I honestly, before I went to Austria, I waslike very low car because I was like what if there's a hot tub,like I just need to like one of my best and that's honestly, that'sthat's not the way to live your life. As a personal trainer, I don'ttell any of my clients to ever do anything like that, but Ijust got in my own head and I was like, Oh, let mejust like not, I don't want to say starved myself, let's just noteat carbs, only protein and only vegetables and nothing else. And I wenta little crazy. What did you learn most about your Elf from filming twelvedates? Oh Gosh, what did I learn about myself? So, youknow, I did learn a bit. How much I I've always known thatI dislike rejection, you know, like I hate rejection and I've a lotof insecurities around that. We've growing up the black gay man and seeing things, people's profiles, you know, not like feeling a like I am lessthen and honestly, the way the gay hearty is black men Asian men,anyone who's dark, we are like considered less attractive, and so I didn'tnecessarily realize just kind of how close to the surface those feelings were for me, and a lot of my frustration and my emotions on the show had lessto do with Garrett and more to do with men in my life, inmy past, who look like Garrett, who have done really bad things tome, and it just brought back all of these triggers and emotions, andso I learned that. I just learned I have a lot of that insideof me, more than I thought I did. At thirty years old.You know, I still have some of this some of this stuff that's justbeen built up over years and years and years of dating and being disappointed,and I'm glad I went through this experience. I'm glad that I got to kindof confront that stuff head on. Like normally, if I'm emotional,I'll go and sit at home and just like not leave my house for aweekend and just, like Benj, watch TV and just like disassociate from whatever'sgoing on so I can like calm myself down. And in this situation,I was I was there were cameras I was on, I couldn't really getaway and I had to just go through it, and I think going throughit ultimately, they made me realize some things and it is going to makeme stronger, like for the next person I date, like I'm just goingto really understand myself a bit more, what I want, what my insecuritiesare, and maybe I'll handle them better the next time around because I'll knowthat I have these insecurities so close to the surface that they won't just likecome out of me in like this uncontrollable like crying, like the moment yousee me crying an episode two, like you know, you can't really tell, but I was like sitting on the floor like bawling my eyes out andthen like these cameras, obviously you know, they come up and they just,you know, they they start asking me questions and it my breakdown inthat moment was a lot harder than I think. It harder for me thanI like it comes across because it was so short, but in reality itwas like a little bit longer than that. And I must say, I knowI'm rambling, but I must say that like the straight Guy Kevin,who showed up with me. He was actually my rock through that whole experience. We had a lot of conversations about...

...like how I feel, what amI doing, like, and I could lean on him for support when Iwasn't feeling like I was getting a support I wanted from Garrett. So itwas you know, I'm glad I had him there with me. Well,and also in showing your emotions and even communicating that with Garrett. That's anotherpart of dating that we've kind of hid behind it. Now, you knowwe're ghost seeing each other or will send ay one more text, and wethink that that's communication. It's like it's okay to call somebody on their actionif they're dating, and if it hurts you in a certain way, it'sokay to say, I didn't like that you did this, or I needyou to explain yourself because I deserve it. And again, it's respect and youshould be able to, you know ghosting. You should be able togo to the person say that's not cool, why, this is how I feeltowards you, and you need to answer. You need to take responsibilityright and that is exactly what my goal was for the reunion. I wantedto just speak my mind openly. You didn't and I did, and therewere no hard feelings to Gart. But I think he needed to really understandhow I felt and what my emotions were about, because at one point he'syou know, he did say, you know, I think Corey just wantsattention. I'm like, this is not about attention, it's about the wayyour words are impacting me, making me feel about myself, and you needto understand that. And I'm really glad I got to have that conversation.I'm really glad that it was there and I got to just express that,because I wasn't just irrational and crazy for the sake of it. I wasreally feeling these big insecurities because at the time I felt like I was beingled on and I needed to stand up for myself and the stand up forother people who've also been in the situation who didn't necessarily get like the opportunityto like confront the person about it. So, you know, going intothe reunion, I said I need to say what I need to say nowso I can let it go. I need to be at my piece andI need to make sure I am heard because me, like you know,I think Jose has his own story and, like him and Garrett had their ownstuff, but I just cared about me and I wanted to talk aboutme and how I felt, because everything I feel is real and it's notjust dismissable as I'm needy or wanting attention. I literally have real emoss its.So and I really think you could see how it affected Garrett. Andyou know now in his dating journey he still single. He's going to thinktwice and I think, I think everybody showing him how how they've felt affectedhis final decision. I was shocked, and no spoiler alert for those thatI want to binge it like I did, because it's know he makes a bigdecision at the end that I was surprised by and I don't think hewould have made that decision if he wouldn't have learned to respect other people's feelingsand respect himself and what he wanted as well. I think that that wasa perfect kind of end to his story, because it's not an end the story, it's just like this is where he's at now. It doesn't meanthat's where anybody's going to be at in...

...a few months. Okay, so, but I don't know all of these hot guys. You have your,you know, two hour dates, but the rest of the time you're wanderingaround this huge, beautiful castle. Where there any behind the scene? Shenanigan's, I built the DEC I will always speak for myself. But when youget kicked out of the castle, you do get sent to like another hotelbefore you fly back to the state. And so I got kicked out andthen, you know, a couple days later Zach gets kicked out and youSA I was Isality. Oh my hound's that? He's so quirky and fungoofy and it's all him. It's so real, like off camera, oncamera, he is that person and I love him for it. And helives an organ so like we're super close. I'm in Seattle now. He taughtbut how do you by the way? Oh, oh, Hey, Idon't know where he is right now. He's probably working. He's a flowerfarmer, so he's out on the fields, I'm sure. But no, we so zach and I had a little bit of a moment in Austriain the hotel, but you know, that was just a one time thing. We're friends, you know, it's nothing more than that. I thinkit was just we're both very frustrated. We're stuck in this hotel and guesswhat, there's no other game in here and we like it. It wasan emotional thing being in the show and we got to get through those emotionstogether. I'll say so. I love that. Kay, we're gonna leaveit at that. I know that there's some more stories there. Look,I'm just going to talk about me. You have to ask the other peopleabout themselves, but I'm not no thing. You did when you got home fromfilming? Oh my God, honestly, so, I was living in LaI moved to Seattle and mays and we I got back from like Louisianafilming in March and the very first thing I did is, I think Iwent to like flaming saddles with my friends and La because it was it wasstill open and I was like I need to just chill. Actually know itwas chapel. We went to chapel. We were sitting there like at thetables drinking and I was like I need my girls, like let's just talkand gossip. I need to unload all of this almost no baggage that Ijust went through and I need your like I just needed my I need myboys, and I think we just got I don't know, I don't likeI blacked out or anything, but I definitely drank away too much and Ijust like was living on that moment of let me get all this out ofme before I go crazy. And these these people that I've known in Laor like I've known them for like ten, fifteen years is, are my bestfriends. They know everything about me and the like family. So Ijust needed their support. And it isn't it funny filming a big you know, a big part of your life, you know, this was a journeyfor you. Yeah, in it, and then having to wait so manymonths and then having us go through this covid insanity, political insanity. Itisn't weird to film such a great project and then have to sit on itand it's like, Oh God, you just wanted to share what you wentthrough. Oh, and yet and life change so dramatically. So we goto Austria and February, we come back...

...in March and film Louisiana and thenthe world is shutting down and then George Floyd happens and as all this socialunrest, I moved to Seattle and like off the election stuff is happening.And literally, I think it was what, eight and a half months between filmingand then the first episode airing. Not was that long, but itwas a decent amount of time and I really couldn't say anything. Like afew people knew. My family knew because they were like gave the thumbs upto film if I brought somebody home. And Yeah, it was just anemotional roller coaster this year, but I do think it made me better.I think the lockdowns have really allowed me to slow down. I move veryfast through life and I'm always thinking about the next thing and having to sitback and realize where am I going, what am I going to do,like what am I what makes me the happiest? I really just got tolike sit at home and think about that. For like, I think six monthsstraight, I was not leaving my house that much. I bought dumbbells, I bought like a spin bike. I don't have to leave my housefor anything. I was doing like grocery food deliveries. So yeah,this year will has been insane, but I'm so thankful. I think I'dbecome a better person through the show and through things that have happened outside ofthe show. I think I am like on the path to success for therest of my life. So I'm very happy well, and I'm very thankfulfor you sharing your story, because it is great to see a dating journey. It's great to see somebody that is so open to a relationship. It'sgreat to see somebody at home with their feelings. I'm not afraid to sharethat. So I thank you for that. Are you? Are you ready toplay a little rapid fire? Oh my gosh, okay, let's go. Okay, biggest red flag when dating somebody that you will not ignore.Oh my God. Oh okay, rapid fire should be fast, right.Biggest Red Flag is if you're a slow text or I'm sorry, you're sittingat home. You can respond to something in like a couple of minutes.You're not that, missy. I don't care what you say. Oh myGod, I totally agree. They're even out of something or you're just nota priority, but nobody says, Oh, I didn't get your tax ball right. Your phone is always in your hand, always, or it's inyour pocket. You felt that thing by brant. You decided not to respond, like I'm sorry. I know what. If you're ever going to response forme, that's really late. I'Ma tell you now it's because I'm ignoringyou or I did it on purpose. I always know when I get amessage like it's just nice. Is Not a thing. I could be deadin my casket. I'll be like, oh, that's just texted me right. Who else in the castle would you have gone home with? I willsay I was most attracted to dominic. I saw him when I got kickedout and I really love a pretty face and like a cute person. Ilove clean cut guys and he was the most clean cut I've been Steve Stephen. If him and I spent more time with each other. You don't seethis, but we have like a moment one of the nights, like onthe couch getting to know each other when Garrett was off with Jose and Stephenand I like, if we had spent more time together, I probably Icould have gone home with him. Honestly, you know what's funny? Everybody LoveDominic. Everybody Love Dominic. He...

...he just reminded me of Brent Corrigan. He looks like Brent Corrigan. So Oh, like, oh, seethat yeah, I can't see that. Okay, WHO's pretty crush? Oh, Chris, can't say his name. Ronaldo, the soccer player. He'slike, yeah, he is everything. He is, the body, theface, like I love it, like his. I love a pretty boy. He is a great smile and he's athletic and he's kind of a douchebagand I love all of that. But did you think for plastic surgery andbefore makeover pictures? Oh No, what did he look like? Why don'tyou Google that? You might be like, Oh, wow, wow, well, I see him now. That's that's all that matter. Okay,the Fast Bank are what is the worst Christmas gift you've ever received? Theworst sistems. So the worst is just not getting one. So I've datedmen through the holidays and I don't think they've ever ever gotten me a gift. Like we spend like Christmas Eve together or whatever, but I've never gottena gift, and that is just shitty because I love getting gifts. Ilove getting gifts and I've never gotten one from a man on Christmas. Sothat this is hand down with my worst gift. All right, everybody,so now you know when you slide into Corey's DM's and you have to alsosend a present. Yes, yes, please. That's dry gross. Whatwould your drag name be? Oh my God, what? KNDA pykes wouldbe so good. Well, my friends like made that up here, thatI'm like area guys. I was like, I'm strong and so I like theWa Honda, and it's just like it's like, somebody do me anddrag, please, let's get it done. I would not look good, though. I'm telling you now. I would not look good in drag,but I would totally live my life onezero percent. That is made my day. Literally, that's the best time ever. Okay, tell everybody where you wantthem to find you and follow you. Yes, yes, yes, youcan find me on Instagram, twitter, Tick Tock. It is Corey La, that is cor e Y, and my last name is La y, just like the chips. Find Me, let's chat, let's have fun.Let me know you thought of the show, if you thought I wascrazy or not crazy. I just want to hear it. I enjoy laughingat myself and if you can tell me a good joke about myself and mydramatics, like let's let's do it. Let's laugh together. Well, Ilove chatting with you. I really needed this kind of pick me up beforethe holidays, for sure. That has been my chat with Corey. Youcan read my indepth interview with him at Natural Sourcecom. And that's our episode. I'm your host, Alexander Rodriguez. You can find me on Instagram atAlexander is. On Air and until next time, stay true and do youboo? That has been another metro source mini like share, subscribe on yourfavorite podcast player and check out the latest issue of Metro source magazine on newstandsor online at Metro sourcecom. Follow us on Facebook, instagram at natural sourceand on twitter at Metro course man.

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