HBO Max' 12 Dates of Christmas with Corey Lay

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HBO Max continues its quest to represent the LGBTQ community in a wide variety of programming. To add to the mix of We’re Here, Equal, and Legendary, they have added a delicious holiday treat that is our current Christmas guilty pleasure. While stuck at home with nothing to do but post selfies and watch TV, what better way to pass the time than with some holiday cheesiness and a side of fun drama? HBO’s Max 12 Dates of Christmas, set in a stunning winter wonderland, follows three hopelessly romantic singles on their journey to meet that special someone to bring home for the holidays. The show features Garrett, a gay man looking for love. 

Corey Lay, a video game and app developer & fitness trainer, was among the contestants to try his hand at love. And while he didn’t make it to the end, he made a long-lasting emotional impression on the show. In showing his emotions, he hopes to be an example for younger people watching that it’s ok to put your emotions on display, not a weakness. Corey is an LGBTQ and black community activist with an adorable smile and winning attitude…we’d gladly spend New Year’s Eve with him…and even longer.

We chatted with Corey about finding love on reality TV, first date red flags, respecting yourself in the dating world, showing your feelings, and we tackled the hot topic of putting racial preferences on dating apps and in the real world.  

This is metro source minis, the official podcast to Metro source magazine and home of short form interviews with your favorite personalities from the lgbtq world and beyond. Quick, Fun and informative. It's metro source on the go, out in proud since one thousand nine hundred and ninety. Well, Ho, Ho Ho, it's the holidays. This is metro source minis. I'm your host, Alexander Rodriguez, lead rider for Metro source and avid podcaster. All Right, anybody else single? This Christmas guilty Hbo Max Continues Its quest to represent the LGBTQ community in a wide variety of programming and adding to the mix of we're here, equal and legendary, they have added a delicious holiday treat. That is our current Christmas guilty pleasure. So I'll stuck at home with nothing to do but take selfie's and watch TV. What better way to pass the time then with some drama and some holiday cheese? Hbo Max Has Twelve dates of Christmas set in a stunning winter wonderland and actual castle in Austria. Follows three hopelessly romantic singles on their journey to meet the special sum when they hope to bring home for the holidays. The show features Garrett, a gay man looking for love, but cory lay, video game and APP developer and fitness trainer, was among the contestants to try his hand at love and while he didn't make it to the end, he made a long, asking an emotional impression on the show and in showing his emotions he hopes to to show younger people watching that it's okay to put your emotions on display. It's not a weakness. Corey is an LGBTQ and black community activist with an adorable smile and a winning attitude. We'd gladly spend New Year's Eve with him, or longer. Please welcome Corey Lay. Hello, I'm so happy to be here, Alexander, thank you for having me. Oh It's such a pleasure. So I had to watch the whole season in one sitting and the reunion is now streaming too, so I literally watched it, watch the whole season. So we're going to get down to it. Okay, let's do it. Let's ask all the questions, let's figure it out. I grew up watching reality TV. I watch the real world, I watch the challenge, I watch the BATSTER and bats theorette. So reality TV is something that I've always really enjoyed as a consumer and when the opportunity came around to potentially go on it myself and try to find love, there was no hesitation at all. I said, let's do this, I'm going to meet my other half, like it's all in on day one. And Yeah, I I grew up watching it and honestly wanting to be a part of it and then when it came around, it just it was like a dream come true. So what was the audition process like? Did you have to submit a tape? was there a few auditions? What did they ask you to do? So it's really interesting. They actually messaged me on instagram a DM's. They said Hey, we're doing a Christmas them dating show. Would you be interested? And literally within...

...like five minutes I just said yes, let's get on the phone, let's talk. And so, because I was one of the last people cast, from beginning to end, from that first DM to being on a plane to Austria, it was a little over three weeks, I think, and I did not need a single person in real life until I so it was a lot of zooms, a lot of phone calls a lot of questionnaires on what do I like, what I don't like, and then it was it was so fast for me. There were some people who did go through like fly to La, do the audition loop, all that kind of stuff. But I don't know, I just got lucky, I guess, and they liked it, they saw. Well, I have to tell you, three weeks is a really short time for reality TV casting, I think. Well, yeah, and this was before Covid, right. Yeah, so we successfully wrapped filming safely and stuff by at the in the middle of March, like right before everything shut down, right before covid went really crazy, and we actually finished, finished filming in Austria, I think the first week in March. So we flew back and then we filmed the stuff in Louisiana Garrett's house. So we were just right on the cutting like the cutting edge of that. Yeah, block of that what. It's funny that they slid into your dams. Your social media is fire. I mean we get muscles, we get shirtless, we get some boating, we get a lot of boating. A Oh my God, that one piece like Romper that you had with like the radier and coming through. Yeah, yeah, I think it was like episode two. You turned around in the camera and I was like, Whoa, that's that's a booty. Oh my God, thank you. So I do not skip leg day. I'm always doing my squat. So, you know, I try, try my best. You know what, if I listen to a fast paced song, that's my cardio and then I call it a day. So, cory, you kind of went in with a total open heart. That we saw right off the bat. But did you really think that it was possible to find love on reality TV? And do you think now that it is possible to find love on a reality TV show? So I did think that I could fall in love on a reality TV show. I told myself that if someone out there is crazy enough like me to go on a Christmas them dating show, we're already a little bit of a match because we're both like taking this leap. And the way that I saw it was it's going to be accelerated, it's going to be fast, we're going to skip all the bs of normal dating and just like get down to can we work, can we not work? And it didn't work for me, unfortunately. Through my experience on told days of Christmas but I saw it with others. I saw it with Anthony and faith and I saw it with Chad and kate and I am still a believer it can happen. I mean Chatt and Kate, spoiler, they're engaged and they just moved in with each other and that is what I thought could happen to me or what's going to happen to me, and it didn't. But I believe in it now more than ever because I literally went through it and saw it happened right before my eyes. It's very interesting your perspective, having been on the show and me watching it, binge watching it, some of the relationships and I and things...

...that I I'm sure that you got to feel. You know, due to editing, might not have come across the whole faith anthony relationship. I wasn't sold on and I'm still not sold on it. It's so it's very interesting. But your your journey and watching your journey I saw so many things that you did that I tend to do in my own dating life that didn't work so well. You seem to fall in love so fast, so strongly, and looking back at the show, did you think those feelings were real wasn't that a bit too much too soon? So the thing is, I was going on a dating show, so I'm not going to hold myself back. I will say in in in real life, if I'm dating someone, I don't necessarily so. I do show up and I'm always myself on day one and I tell him exactly how I feel, but I don't necessarily throw myself that much. I knew I only had a specific amount of weeks to get to know Garrett before he would meet my family, I would meet his family, and that is what I came in trying to do. So yes, I did go very strong, and I just think that's the point. If you're coming into this experience and you're not able to open yourself up and throw yourself off of the cliff of love, then I just don't know if it's the right thing for you, because this is not real life where you can wait twelve months before you get to know somebody and get to take them home. And I did come on strong. I wouldn't have changed anything about my experience. I mean, ultimately, the stuff Garrett saw from me he was going to probably see eventually. So I don't I don't mind that honestly, me and Garrett are actually very good friends now. We talk all of the time and it's just we had a difference of where our connections were at the time, and you know, that's totally fine with me. But do you think you can fall in love after a few days, after if these, is that a real love feeling? So I in my life I have aunts and uncles who got engaged after two weeks and they've been together for over thirty years. So I am a believer that when you know, you know, and you can know quickly. And to be fair, I never said I was in love with Garrett. I wanted to spend time with him and get to know him, and a lot of my disappointment through my experience came from feeling rejected, feeling like the rug was pulled from underneath me. It wasn't necessarily I wasn't professing my love. It's just I wanted love, I wanted to fight for love and I wanted a chance to be seen and heard, and that is really where my frustration came from. But you are still single, right I it's still single. Yes, now, did your DM's just like change overnight once the show premiered? Like Hay Garup. Oh my God. So I've definitely got a lot of deals from game and you know, also got a lot of dams from women and people who were just like I see you, I feel you. I've been through that. Thank you for just like being vulnerable and sensitive, because, like a lot of people are...

...and I think they're afraid to just show that side of them. So it's been a mixture of like Thirsty Hay, Cory R hot, and then it's also like Corey, I understand you. Thank you for standing up for us, the sensitive people, and just expressing yourself the way you did. Well, and I love that they put a gay man into Strang people, because we saw a little, you know, some of the similarities of what the dating life is like, regardless of your sexual orientation. We see what kind of games people can play, we see the emotions that can happen. But straight men watching to watch hot faith will see men be emotional on all different sides, and so I love the idea that your storyline reached a lot of different people. Yeah, you did show a lot of emotion and as gay men, when we cry or Emote, there's a general reaction to roll your eyes and be like, Oh God, that Queen is being overly dramatic. Oh God. Yeah, you wanted to show a different kind of side of that. Can you explain a little bit more? Yeah, so I like, I'm obviously a gay man, but I'm also a black man, and black men, when the way they're depicted in movies, TV shows, reality TV, it's very one dimensional, like you have to be strong, you have to be angry, you can't show your weakness as you can't be vulnerable, you can't cry, and I wanted to come in here one hundred percent myself and if I would have cried, I guess what, I'm going to cry because I think people need to know that it is okay, you're not weaker by showing your emotions, and that's just that's how I live my life and on this show, with this audience that's going to be watching it, I just knew in my heart that I couldn't show up and suppress any part of me pretty much. So let's talk about your role as a black man on the show. That's a hot topic and I really wanted to talk about it with you. Because you are so candid. Something that was brought up in the reunion special that chest aired, by the way, on Hbo Max, The joke was made that faith, the straight girl on the show, was clearly only attracted to men of a darker color and it was kind of brought up during the season. But you know, it was a big, funny joke at the reunion and it's funny that Garrett's first contestants were you, a black man, we had an Asian man and then we had a Latino and then the white guy started to show up and then Garrett was like, Oh God, I'm in love now. It was like there was the diversity check for game and although we didn't have any Husky guys, I want to point but season two may maybe let's let's, yeah, tell them, yeah, hello, hello, waits be all Max top big girls need love to but I saw a double standard in that we could joke about faith only being attracted to to to darker men, and would have made been made about Garrett, which I think it was a little obvious that once the white guy started to come up, he all of a sudden was chasing after them having these love kind of feelings. But if that was said, the whole gay nation...

...would have gone crazy saying you can't say that. You know that Garrett was only attracted to white men. which brings me to the whole grinder debate. You know you're attracted to what you're attracted to. You can't physically tell your body to be attracted to something, you just naturally respond. But why is it not okay to be open on a grinder profile and say I'm not attracted to this, or even in real life saying I'm not attracted to whether it be a you know, ethnic background or a body type? Why, as a gay community, are we trying to dissuade that? I think it comes down to respect. Like, first off, to talk about faith and her attraction to black men. So when she had white men in front of her, she still went on a date with Kevin. She's still talked to wells, talk to Tyson. She did not just disrespect these people and say, Oh, you're not my type. You can't even spend an an ounce of time talking to me. And I think when it comes to now talking about like the gay side of things, and honestly, at one I would I just want to say I do not think Garrett does not date men of color. I mean I actually think he prefers Latino men. From what I've seen and looking at his diverse friend group, he does have friends from everywhere. Like I don't want Garrett to take the narrative that he does not date or gives people of color like less of a chance with him, like I honestly think him and I did have a connection in a spark and I will defend that. He does not like I don't think it's a colorism thing with him. I know that it's very big in our community but, like I just I will refuse to say that about Garrett. The grinder thing is really just if I'm sending a message to someone, for example, their response should not be I'm not attracted to black men. That is disrespectful, that is rude. If you're not interested in me, just say yeah, I know, do casual small talk and then just stop the conversation. You don't need to say I don't like black men, you're not my type, you're ugly, all of these things, because what does that do? It's a form of cyberbullying. It hurts, it it brings APLES and securities out. People have committed suicide over things like this. So I think there is just a level of respect and how we communate, communicate with each other as gay men, that should be upheld. I don't care if you like black men, just don't fucking treat me like trash. Like, if I want to talk to you, talk to me, and if you don't want to talk to me, don't talk to me. But like, just don't say brue things. That's what it bows down to. I don't I do you people's body is or whatever their attracts, what they're attracted to, but the last thing that someone needs to do, or I need to do, is make somebody else feel like they are worse or less than. And when you see someone's profile says no blacks, no thems, no Asians, whatever it's going to say, that is just what is the point? You don't have to talk to everybody, but you don't also need to make them feel like they're nothing. You know, and I was, I was playing devil's advocate with with the whole Garrett situation. Yeah, and how reality TV can edit things and how a community can also grab onto one thing when there's a full narrative, and I love what you said about communication and respect. I think respect has gotten...

...lost in the dating world in general. I think we're so quick to jump into bed with somebody, we're so quick to be sexual about it, and I know you know the gay community has a bad rap because, I mean, and we even found out twelve dates, Garrett could even keep it in his pants. But we become so overly sexualized, which is a big part of any relationship. But it all comes down to respect, and the more respect you show others, it's also respect for yourself as well, and I think we need to get back to an old fashioned, respectful level of of dating, not meaning you can't have sex when you want to have sex, but that it's based on actual communication rather than Dick picks or the top bottom verse. And you know what, I found even hookups, when you connect with somebody, it makes the hook up even hotter, if you want to put it on that level, of course. Yeah, it is not just about, like I want to feel passion at the old at the end of the day, I do. You can tell, like I'm a very passionate, emotional kind of person and that's what drives me. Like sex is sex, but like I want sex with passion. Otherwise, like, I don't I don't need you. You know what I mean. Yeah, I really love that theme of respect in anything, whether it's a hook up, whether it's a first date, whether it's a first year and anniversary. Okay, what are your tips for a great first date? Yeah, I so great tips for first date. I would say show up and get to know the other person. Don't make it all about you. Don't talk about you, like what you don't like, what your dreams are like. You really want to connect at the other person. So ask questions, ask follow up questions, like actually make a concerted effort in getting to know this person, because at the end of the day, if you're with somebody for fifty years, their looks are going to fade right what matters is what they believe in and how they talk and how you guys have a rapport I think stay optimistic. Don't talk about X has. I said that in my interview on the website, like don't talk about X has. It just makes me think that you are not over your ex and if you bring up an x and the first date, I'm not going to have a second date with you. I'm sorry, like eventually we'll talk about that and whatever, but like, I just just don't want to cross that line, whether it's positive or negative. Don't mention your ex please, I don't care. Let's just move forward and go on from that. And I really think just try to have fun. Everyone is so serious. Like I like first days to be an activity, things that we can distract ourselves with. Maybe just be a little bit competitive and flirty or whatever. But like, I hate dinner dates. I don't want to do a bar where we're drinking. I don't want to be one of the people either. Like a gay Bar for first day is trash. Do not ever take somebody to a gay bar and a first date. You're never going to make a connection. You're gonna have all these other men that are just like looking at you and just like, I can't. It's just weird. So yeah, do something fun. Go play golf or Frisbee or just something in a part. You know, it's funny you say don't bring and so many dating experts say don't bring somebody to a bar or you know,...

...especially in the gay community, but it's very funny. What I wish people were to do more on a first date is just be who they are. Three months later, you know, everybody's on their best behavior, dressed in their best outfit. Go to an expensive restaurant if you like to eat at Sizzler, go to censer on your first date. If you want to order and express and like drive somewhere, do that if that's who you really are, because I would rather find them up first. So if somebody goes to the bar often on the weekends and they're nightlife person, if that's who they are and that's what they usually do, then I think that they should do that on a first date and you can say right there, Hey, you know what, that's just not that's not the environment. I don't want to spend my week hands at the Abbey. Boom, boom, boom. Yeah, no, that is a that is a very good point. That is a very good point. You show up as you are, be yourself. If you want to go to a bar, go to a bar. That maybe not. That's not the best first aid idea with me specifically, but for the other person that you may be going a date with, maybe they'll love it and you do end up together, get married, of kids, all that stuff or whatever you want. So yes, so up as you are ignored my advice because apparently just, you know, do do what you want. I don't know what I'm talking about. I'm still spin around your single and I'm still single. So I don't know. But you know what, I think it's because we've learned that this is what we want and this is what we're not going to put up with anymore and I'm not going to waste three months kind of, you know, testing out the water. I've been there, done that, and then there's three months that that have gone and again it goes back to your theme of respect. When you respect yourself, you're not you're no, you're not gonna you're going to see red flags and that's going to be enough for you, because you're going to move on and there will be somebody out there and having fun. I think is so important. I think that's one thing I got from watching Garrett is that he was so serious and they're the whole like fun aspect was kind of forced and it really wasn't natural. Maybe he's just not a fool, but I will say in in regards to that it is a very stressful situation. Being Cona, it was stressful for me, which is why some of my emotions came out the way that they did. And for Garrett to be the person who's making all of the tough decisions. who gets a date, who's goes home? Who am I going to spend time with? Like you know, I think it's just tough for anyone. I do not. I do think he was fun. Like I think about our day, like our apple strudel date was so fun, and episode three, like you only see like our conversations in there, but we set there for I saw you having fun. Well, well, I'm also I'm very goofy and silly and I like making jokes like about myself. So, yeah, that's just how I do my humor. So, like I had my little like thing on my face and stuff, not like that. Will we were just like an hour and a half, literally an hour and a half, making this apple strudle, baking it and all of that, and it was so fun. It's just I think some of the tensor conversations are kind of what come through, because those are what's important to like our connections, and that's what you see drama. Yeah, yeah, yeah, it's funny when they have gay guys go on a...

...cooking or a baking. It's like, bitch, they don't eat. Look at their wayside that they don't eat. That was like I honestly, before I went to Austria, I was like very low car because I was like what if there's a hot tub, like I just need to like one of my best and that's honestly, that's that's not the way to live your life. As a personal trainer, I don't tell any of my clients to ever do anything like that, but I just got in my own head and I was like, Oh, let me just like not, I don't want to say starved myself, let's just not eat carbs, only protein and only vegetables and nothing else. And I went a little crazy. What did you learn most about your Elf from filming twelve dates? Oh Gosh, what did I learn about myself? So, you know, I did learn a bit. How much I I've always known that I dislike rejection, you know, like I hate rejection and I've a lot of insecurities around that. We've growing up the black gay man and seeing things, people's profiles, you know, not like feeling a like I am less then and honestly, the way the gay hearty is black men Asian men, anyone who's dark, we are like considered less attractive, and so I didn't necessarily realize just kind of how close to the surface those feelings were for me, and a lot of my frustration and my emotions on the show had less to do with Garrett and more to do with men in my life, in my past, who look like Garrett, who have done really bad things to me, and it just brought back all of these triggers and emotions, and so I learned that. I just learned I have a lot of that inside of me, more than I thought I did. At thirty years old. You know, I still have some of this some of this stuff that's just been built up over years and years and years of dating and being disappointed, and I'm glad I went through this experience. I'm glad that I got to kind of confront that stuff head on. Like normally, if I'm emotional, I'll go and sit at home and just like not leave my house for a weekend and just, like Benj, watch TV and just like disassociate from whatever's going on so I can like calm myself down. And in this situation, I was I was there were cameras I was on, I couldn't really get away and I had to just go through it, and I think going through it ultimately, they made me realize some things and it is going to make me stronger, like for the next person I date, like I'm just going to really understand myself a bit more, what I want, what my insecurities are, and maybe I'll handle them better the next time around because I'll know that I have these insecurities so close to the surface that they won't just like come out of me in like this uncontrollable like crying, like the moment you see me crying an episode two, like you know, you can't really tell, but I was like sitting on the floor like bawling my eyes out and then like these cameras, obviously you know, they come up and they just, you know, they they start asking me questions and it my breakdown in that moment was a lot harder than I think. It harder for me than I like it comes across because it was so short, but in reality it was like a little bit longer than that. And I must say, I know I'm rambling, but I must say that like the straight Guy Kevin, who showed up with me. He was actually my rock through that whole experience. We had a lot of conversations about...

...like how I feel, what am I doing, like, and I could lean on him for support when I wasn't feeling like I was getting a support I wanted from Garrett. So it was you know, I'm glad I had him there with me. Well, and also in showing your emotions and even communicating that with Garrett. That's another part of dating that we've kind of hid behind it. Now, you know we're ghost seeing each other or will send ay one more text, and we think that that's communication. It's like it's okay to call somebody on their action if they're dating, and if it hurts you in a certain way, it's okay to say, I didn't like that you did this, or I need you to explain yourself because I deserve it. And again, it's respect and you should be able to, you know ghosting. You should be able to go to the person say that's not cool, why, this is how I feel towards you, and you need to answer. You need to take responsibility right and that is exactly what my goal was for the reunion. I wanted to just speak my mind openly. You didn't and I did, and there were no hard feelings to Gart. But I think he needed to really understand how I felt and what my emotions were about, because at one point he's you know, he did say, you know, I think Corey just wants attention. I'm like, this is not about attention, it's about the way your words are impacting me, making me feel about myself, and you need to understand that. And I'm really glad I got to have that conversation. I'm really glad that it was there and I got to just express that, because I wasn't just irrational and crazy for the sake of it. I was really feeling these big insecurities because at the time I felt like I was being led on and I needed to stand up for myself and the stand up for other people who've also been in the situation who didn't necessarily get like the opportunity to like confront the person about it. So, you know, going into the reunion, I said I need to say what I need to say now so I can let it go. I need to be at my piece and I need to make sure I am heard because me, like you know, I think Jose has his own story and, like him and Garrett had their own stuff, but I just cared about me and I wanted to talk about me and how I felt, because everything I feel is real and it's not just dismissable as I'm needy or wanting attention. I literally have real emoss its. So and I really think you could see how it affected Garrett. And you know now in his dating journey he still single. He's going to think twice and I think, I think everybody showing him how how they've felt affected his final decision. I was shocked, and no spoiler alert for those that I want to binge it like I did, because it's know he makes a big decision at the end that I was surprised by and I don't think he would have made that decision if he wouldn't have learned to respect other people's feelings and respect himself and what he wanted as well. I think that that was a perfect kind of end to his story, because it's not an end the story, it's just like this is where he's at now. It doesn't mean that's where anybody's going to be at in...

...a few months. Okay, so, but I don't know all of these hot guys. You have your, you know, two hour dates, but the rest of the time you're wandering around this huge, beautiful castle. Where there any behind the scene? Shenanigan's, I built the DEC I will always speak for myself. But when you get kicked out of the castle, you do get sent to like another hotel before you fly back to the state. And so I got kicked out and then, you know, a couple days later Zach gets kicked out and you SA I was Isality. Oh my hound's that? He's so quirky and fun goofy and it's all him. It's so real, like off camera, on camera, he is that person and I love him for it. And he lives an organ so like we're super close. I'm in Seattle now. He taught but how do you by the way? Oh, oh, Hey, I don't know where he is right now. He's probably working. He's a flower farmer, so he's out on the fields, I'm sure. But no, we so zach and I had a little bit of a moment in Austria in the hotel, but you know, that was just a one time thing. We're friends, you know, it's nothing more than that. I think it was just we're both very frustrated. We're stuck in this hotel and guess what, there's no other game in here and we like it. It was an emotional thing being in the show and we got to get through those emotions together. I'll say so. I love that. Kay, we're gonna leave it at that. I know that there's some more stories there. Look, I'm just going to talk about me. You have to ask the other people about themselves, but I'm not no thing. You did when you got home from filming? Oh my God, honestly, so, I was living in La I moved to Seattle and mays and we I got back from like Louisiana filming in March and the very first thing I did is, I think I went to like flaming saddles with my friends and La because it was it was still open and I was like I need to just chill. Actually know it was chapel. We went to chapel. We were sitting there like at the tables drinking and I was like I need my girls, like let's just talk and gossip. I need to unload all of this almost no baggage that I just went through and I need your like I just needed my I need my boys, and I think we just got I don't know, I don't like I blacked out or anything, but I definitely drank away too much and I just like was living on that moment of let me get all this out of me before I go crazy. And these these people that I've known in La or like I've known them for like ten, fifteen years is, are my best friends. They know everything about me and the like family. So I just needed their support. And it isn't it funny filming a big you know, a big part of your life, you know, this was a journey for you. Yeah, in it, and then having to wait so many months and then having us go through this covid insanity, political insanity. It isn't weird to film such a great project and then have to sit on it and it's like, Oh God, you just wanted to share what you went through. Oh, and yet and life change so dramatically. So we go to Austria and February, we come back...

...in March and film Louisiana and then the world is shutting down and then George Floyd happens and as all this social unrest, I moved to Seattle and like off the election stuff is happening. And literally, I think it was what, eight and a half months between filming and then the first episode airing. Not was that long, but it was a decent amount of time and I really couldn't say anything. Like a few people knew. My family knew because they were like gave the thumbs up to film if I brought somebody home. And Yeah, it was just an emotional roller coaster this year, but I do think it made me better. I think the lockdowns have really allowed me to slow down. I move very fast through life and I'm always thinking about the next thing and having to sit back and realize where am I going, what am I going to do, like what am I what makes me the happiest? I really just got to like sit at home and think about that. For like, I think six months straight, I was not leaving my house that much. I bought dumb bells, I bought like a spin bike. I don't have to leave my house for anything. I was doing like grocery food deliveries. So yeah, this year will has been insane, but I'm so thankful. I think I'd become a better person through the show and through things that have happened outside of the show. I think I am like on the path to success for the rest of my life. So I'm very happy well, and I'm very thankful for you sharing your story, because it is great to see a dating journey. It's great to see somebody that is so open to a relationship. It's great to see somebody at home with their feelings. I'm not afraid to share that. So I thank you for that. Are you? Are you ready to play a little rapid fire? Oh my gosh, okay, let's go. Okay, biggest red flag when dating somebody that you will not ignore. Oh my God. Oh okay, rapid fire should be fast, right. Biggest Red Flag is if you're a slow text or I'm sorry, you're sitting at home. You can respond to something in like a couple of minutes. You're not that, missy. I don't care what you say. Oh my God, I totally agree. They're even out of something or you're just not a priority, but nobody says, Oh, I didn't get your tax ball right. Your phone is always in your hand, always, or it's in your pocket. You felt that thing by brant. You decided not to respond, like I'm sorry. I know what. If you're ever going to response for me, that's really late. I'Ma tell you now it's because I'm ignoring you or I did it on purpose. I always know when I get a message like it's just nice. Is Not a thing. I could be dead in my casket. I'll be like, oh, that's just texted me right. Who else in the castle would you have gone home with? I will say I was most attracted to dominic. I saw him when I got kicked out and I really love a pretty face and like a cute person. I love clean cut guys and he was the most clean cut I've been Steve Stephen. If him and I spent more time with each other. You don't see this, but we have like a moment one of the nights, like on the couch getting to know each other when Garrett was off with Jose and Stephen and I like, if we had spent more time together, I probably I could have gone home with him. Honestly, you know what's funny? Everybody Love Dominic. Everybody Love Dominic. He...

...he just reminded me of Brent Corrigan. He looks like Brent Corrigan. So Oh, like, oh, see that yeah, I can't see that. Okay, WHO's pretty crush? Oh, Chris, can't say his name. Ronaldo, the soccer player. He's like, yeah, he is everything. He is, the body, the face, like I love it, like his. I love a pretty boy. He is a great smile and he's athletic and he's kind of a douchebag and I love all of that. But did you think for plastic surgery and before makeover pictures? Oh No, what did he look like? Why don't you Google that? You might be like, Oh, wow, wow, well, I see him now. That's that's all that matter. Okay, the Fast Bank are what is the worst Christmas gift you've ever received? The worst sistems. So the worst is just not getting one. So I've dated men through the holidays and I don't think they've ever ever gotten me a gift. Like we spend like Christmas Eve together or whatever, but I've never gotten a gift, and that is just shitty because I love getting gifts. I love getting gifts and I've never gotten one from a man on Christmas. So that this is hand down with my worst gift. All right, everybody, so now you know when you slide into Corey's DM's and you have to also send a present. Yes, yes, please. That's dry gross. What would your drag name be? Oh my God, what? KNDA pykes would be so good. Well, my friends like made that up here, that I'm like area guys. I was like, I'm strong and so I like the Wa Honda, and it's just like it's like, somebody do me and drag, please, let's get it done. I would not look good, though. I'm telling you now. I would not look good in drag, but I would totally live my life onezero percent. That is made my day. Literally, that's the best time ever. Okay, tell everybody where you want them to find you and follow you. Yes, yes, yes, you can find me on Instagram, twitter, Tick Tock. It is Corey La, that is cor e Y, and my last name is La y, just like the chips. Find Me, let's chat, let's have fun. Let me know you thought of the show, if you thought I was crazy or not crazy. I just want to hear it. I enjoy laughing at myself and if you can tell me a good joke about myself and my dramatics, like let's let's do it. Let's laugh together. Well, I love chatting with you. I really needed this kind of pick me up before the holidays, for sure. That has been my chat with Corey. You can read my indepth interview with him at Natural Sourcecom. And that's our episode. I'm your host, Alexander Rodriguez. You can find me on Instagram at Alexander is. On Air and until next time, stay true and do you boo? That has been another metro source mini like share, subscribe on your favorite podcast player and check out the latest issue of Metro source magazine on newstands or online at Metro sourcecom. Follow us on Facebook, instagram at natural source and on twitter at Metro course man.

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