HBO Max' 12 Dates of Christmas with Corey Lay

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HBO Max continues its quest to represent the LGBTQ community in a wide variety of programming. To add to the mix of We’re Here, Equal, and Legendary, they have added a delicious holiday treat that is our current Christmas guilty pleasure. While stuck at home with nothing to do but post selfies and watch TV, what better way to pass the time than with some holiday cheesiness and a side of fun drama? HBO’s Max 12 Dates of Christmas, set in a stunning winter wonderland, follows three hopelessly romantic singles on their journey to meet that special someone to bring home for the holidays. The show features Garrett, a gay man looking for love. 

Corey Lay, a video game and app developer & fitness trainer, was among the contestants to try his hand at love. And while he didn’t make it to the end, he made a long-lasting emotional impression on the show. In showing his emotions, he hopes to be an example for younger people watching that it’s ok to put your emotions on display, not a weakness. Corey is an LGBTQ and black community activist with an adorable smile and winning attitude…we’d gladly spend New Year’s Eve with him…and even longer.

We chatted with Corey about finding love on reality TV, first date red flags, respecting yourself in the dating world, showing your feelings, and we tackled the hot topic of putting racial preferences on dating apps and in the real world.  

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...interested and literally within, likefive minutes, I just said: Yes, let's get on the phone, let's talk, and sobecause I was one of the last people cast from beginning to end from that,first DM to being on a plane to Austria. It was a little over three weeks. Ithink, and I did not meet a single person in real life until I mae askrea.So it was a lot of zooms. A lot of phone calls a lot of questionnaires ond.What do I like? What I don't like and then it was it was so fast. For me,there were some people who did go through like fly to La. Do the auditionloop, all that kindof stuff, but I don't know I just got lucky. I guess-and they liked that they saw well have to tell you three weeks is a reallyshort time for reality. TV Casting, I think, well yeah, and this was before covidright yeah. So we successfully rap filming safely and stuff bu at the inthe middle of March, like right before everything shut down right before covidwent really crazy and actually FEMIS tinishe filming in Austria. I think thefirst week in March, so we flew back and then we filmed the stuff inLouisiana at Garrett's house. So we were just right on the cutting like thecutting edge of that yeah block of that Wel. It's funny that theyslit into your DMS. Your social media is fire. I mean we get muscles, we getshirtless, we get some boony. We got a loo hatone piece like Romper that youhad with like the raideer coming through God, Yeah Yeah. I think it waslike episode to you turned round of the Camer and I was like wo. That's that'sa booty. Oh my God! Thank you. So I do not skip like day, I'm always doing mysquat. So you know I try to try my best. You know what. If I listen to a fastPAC song, that's my cardio and then I call it Aday so cory. You kind of went in with atotal open hard that we saw right off the bed. But did you really think thatit was possible to find love on reality TV, and do you think now that it ispossible to find love on a reality TV show? So I did think that I could fallin love on a reality. TV show. I told myself that if someone out there iscrazy enough, like me to go on a Christmas team dating show we'realready a little bit of a match because we're both like taking this leap andthe way that I saw it was it's going to be accelerated. It's going to be fast,we're going to skip all the bs of normal dating and just like get down to.Can we work? Can we not work and it didn't work for me. Unfortunately,through my experience on tall dates o Christmas, but I saw it with others. Isaw it with Anthony and faith and I saw it with chat and Kate, and I am still abeliever. It can happen. I mean chatdind, Kates, soiler they're engagedand they just moved in with each other, and that is what I thought could happento me or what's going to happen to me and it didn't, but I believe in it nowmore than ever, because I literally went through it and saw it happen rightbefore my eyes. It's very interesting your perspective, having been on theshow ind me watching it binge watching it. Some ofther relationships and, andthings H that I I'm sure that you got...

...to feel you know due to editing, might not havecome across the whole faith, Anthony Relationship I wasn't sold on and I'mstill not sold on it. So it's very interesting but you'r yourjourney and watching your journey. I saw so many things that you did that Itend to do in my own Dati, life that didn't work so well. You seem to fall in love so fast, sostrongly in looking back at the show, did you think those feelings were real? Wasn't that a bit too muchtoo soon? So the thing is, I was going on adating show, so I'm not going to hold myself back. I will say in in real life,if I'm dating someone- I don't necessarily so I do show up and I'malways myself on day one, and I tell him exactly how I feel, but I don'tnecessarily throw myself that much. I knew I only had a specific amount ofweeks to get to Nogarret before he would meet my family. I would meet hisfamily, and that is what I came in trying to do so. Yes, I did go verystrong and I just think that's the point. If you're coming into thisexperience and you're not able to open yourself up and throw yourself off ofthe cliff of love, then I just don't know if it's the right thing for you,because this is not real life e. You can wait twelve months before you getto know somebody and get to take them home and I did come on strong. Iwouldn't have changed anything about my experience. I mean ultimately the stuffgarret saw from me. He was going to probably see eventually, so I don't I don't mind at honestly me andgarred are actually very good friends. Now we talk all of the time and it'sjust we had a difference of where our connections were at the time- and youknow that's totally fine with me, but you think you can fall in love after afew days. It's after is that a real love feeling. So I in my life, I have aunts and uncles whogot engaged after two weeks and they've been together for over thirty years. SoI am a believer that when you know you know- and you can know quickly and tobe fair- I never said I was in love with Garrett. I wanted to spend timewith him and get to know him and a lot of my disappointment through myexperience, came from feeling rejected feeling, like the rug, was pulled fromunbeneath me. It wasn't necessariy like I wasn't professing my love. It's just.I wanted love, I wanted to fight for love and I wanted a chance to be seenand heard, and that is really where my frustration came from, but you are still single right. I amstill single. Yes, now did your dms just like change overnight once theshow premerred like Heygrop, oh my God, so ive definitely got a lot of deamsfrom game and you know you know, and I love it. I love the attention, but Ialso gotten a lot of dams, fom, women and people who are just like. I see you,I feel you I've been through that thank you for just like being vulnerable andsensitive because, like a lot of people...

...are- and I think, they're afraid tojust show that side of them, so it's been a mixture of like thirsty, Hay,cory, your hot and then it's also like Corea. I understand you thank you forstanding up for us, the sensitive people and just expressing yourself theway you did well and I love that they put a gay man and two Strei people,because we saw little yo w some of the similarities of what the dating life islike, regardless of your sexual orientation. We said what kind of gamespeople can play. We see the emotions that can happen, but straight menwatching to watch hot faith will see men be emotional on all different sides,and so I love the idea that your storyline reached a lot ofdifferent people. Yeah. You did show a lot of emotion and as gay men, when wecry or amote there's a general reaction to Roy your eyes, be like, Oh God thatQueen has bein overly dramatic yeah. You wanted to show a differentkind of side of that. Can you explain a little bit more yeah, so I like I'm,obviously a gay man, but I'm also a black man and black men when the waythey're depicted in movies TV shows reality TV, it's very one. Dimensionallike you have to be strong. You have to be angry. You can't show your weaknessEs. You can't be vulnerable. You can't cry, and I wanted to come in here, onehundred percent myself and if I want to cry, guess what I'm going to cry,because I think people need to know that it is okay, you're not weaker, byshowing your emotions, and that's just that. That's how I live mylife and on this show with this audience, that's going to be watchingit. I just knew in my heart that I couldn't show up and suppress any partof me pretty much. So, let's talk about your role as ablack man on the show it's a hot topic, and I really wanted to talk about itwith you, because you are so candid somethingthat was brought up in the reunion special that just aired by the way onhbl Max. The joke was made that faith. The straight girl on the show was clearly only attracted to men of adarker color and it was kind of brought up during the season. But you know itwas a big funny joke at the reunion and it's funny that Garret's firstcontestants were you a black man. We had an Asian man and then we had aLatino and then the white guy started to show up and then Garret was like. OhGod, I'm in love. Now it was like there was the diversitycheck for forgameant, although we didn't have any Husky guys. I want opoint but season to maybe let's let I let's Geh,let's tell them yeah hello, hello makes meall Bakto big girls need love to, but I saw a double standard and that wecould joke about faith only being attracted to to to dark ement and wouldhave ma been made about Garrett, which I think it was a little obvious thatonce the white guy started to come up, he all of a sudden was chasing afterthem having these love kind of feelings. But if that was said, the whole gaynation would have gone crazy, saying...

...you can't say that you know that Garrwas only attracted to white men, which brings me to the whole grinder debate. You know you're attracted to whatyou're attracted to you can't physically tell your body to beattracted to something you just naturally respond, but why is it not okay to be open on agrinder profilean say I'm not attracted to this or even in real life, sayingI'm not attracted to whether it be a you know, ethnic background or a bodytype? Why, as a gay community, are we trying to dissuade that? I think it comes down to respect likewe'rst off to talk about faith and her attraction to black men. So when she had white men in front of her,she still went on a date with Kevin. She still talked to well talk to Tyson.She did not just disrepect these people and say: Oh you're, not my type. Youcan't even spend an an ounce of time talking to me and I think when it comesto now talking about like the gay side of things and honestly one I just wantto say I do not think Garrett does not date, men of color, I mean I actuallythink he prefers Lactino men from what I've seen and looking at his divertfriend group. He does have friends rom everywhere, like I don't want Gare Sake,the narrative that he does not date or gives people of color like less of achance with him like. I honestly think him and I did have a connectioner in aspark, and I will defend that. He does not like. I don't think it's a colorismthing with him. I know that is very big in our community, but, like I just Iwill refuse to say that about Garrett. The grinder thing is really just. If I'm sending a message to someone,for example, their response should not be I'm not attracted to black men. Thatis disrespectful. That is rude. If you're not interested in me just say:Yea O now do casual small talk and then just stop the conversation. You don'tneed to say I don't like black men you're, not my type you're ugly, all ofthese things, because what does that? Do It's a form of CYBE blling? It hurts.It brings peoples and securities out. People have committed suicide overthings like this, so I think there is just a level of respect and how wecommunate communicate with each other as gay men that should be upheld. Idon't care if you like black men, just don't fucking treat me like trash like.If I want to talk to you talk to me n. If you don't want to talk to me, don'ttalk to me but, like just don't say rude things, that's what it bowls downto. I don't I do you, people's bodies or whatever theire track to whatthey're attracted to, but the last thing that someone needs to do or Ineed to do is make somebody else feel like they are worse or less then, andwhen you see someone's profile it says no blacks, no FEMS, no Asians. Whateverit's going to say that is just what is the point? You don't have to talk toeverybody, but you don't also need to make them feel like they're, nothing. You know and Iwa. I was playing devil'sadvocate with with the whole Garret situation, yeah, how reality TV canedit things and how a community can also grab on to one thing when there'sa full narrative- and I love what you said about communication and respect, Ithink respect- has gotten lost in the...

...dating world in general. I think we'reso quick to jump into bed with somebody were so quick to be sexual about it,and I know you know, the gay community has a bad rap, because I mean if weeven't found out twelve dates. Garret couldn't even keep it in his pants, but we become so overly sexualized,which is a big part of any relationship, but it all comes down to respect andthe more respect you show others. It's also respect for yourself as well, andI think we need to get back to an old fashioned respectful level of dating,not meaning. You can't have sex when you want to have sex, but that it'sbased on actual communication rather than Dick picks or the top bottom verse, and you know what I found even hookupswhen you connect with somebody, it makes the hook up even hotter, if youwant to put it on o on that lovel, of course yeah. It is not just about like.I want to feel passion at the old endend of the day. I thank you can telllike I'm a very passionr emotional kind of person and that's what drives melike. Sex is sex but, like I want sex with passion. Otherwise, like I don't Idon't need you, you know what I mean yeah. I really love that theme of respect inanything whether it's a hookup, whether it's a first date, whether it's hefirst year at anniversary. Okay, what are your tips for a great first date?Yeah, I so great tits for first day I would say, show up and get to know the otherperson don't make it all about. You don't talk about what you like what youdon't like, what your dreams are like you really want to connect with theother person. So ask questions. Ask Followup questions like actually make aconcerted effort ind getting to know this person, because at the end of theday, if you're with somebody for fifty years, their looks are going to faderight. What matters is what they believe in and how they talk and how oyou guys have a report. I think stay optimistic. Don't talkabout Exas! I sait that, in my interview on the website, like don'ttalk about Exis, it just makes me think that you are not over your ex and ifyou bring up an x in the first date, I'm not Goinna have a second date withyou. I'm sorry like eventually we'll talk about that and whatever, but likeI just just don't want to cross that line, whether it's positive or negative,don't mention your X, please. I don't care, let's just move forward and go onfrom that, and I really think just try to have fun. Everyone is so serious,like I like, first days to be an activity things that we can distractourselves with, maybe just be a little bit competitive and flirty or whatever.But, like I hate dinner dates, I don't want to do a bar where we're drinking,I don't want to be rone. Ofthe people either like a gay bar per first dat, istrash. Do not ever take somebody to a gave our on a first date, you're, nevergoing to make a connection. You're, just Goinna have all these other menthat are just like looking at you and just like. I can't it's just weird soyeah do something fun go play golf or Rispy, or just something in a part. Youknow it's funny, you say don't bring, and so many daging experts say don'tbring somebody to a bar or you know,...

...especially in the gay community. Butit's very funny when I wish people were to do more on a first dat is just bewho they are three months later. You know everybody's on their best behavior,dressed in their best outfit go to an expensive restaurant. If you like, Etatsizzler go to Sesar on your first date. If you want to order and express andlike drive somewhere, do that, if that'swhat you really are, because I would rather hon them up first. So ifsomebody goes to the bar, often on the weekends and theyre night life person, if that's who they are and that's whatthey usually do, then I think that they should do that on a first date and youcan say right, Ne Hey, you know what that's just, not that's, not theenvironment. I don't want to spend my weekends at the Abbey Froyeah. No, thatis a. That is a very good point. That is a very good point. You show up, asyou are be yourself. If you want to go to a bar, go to a bar that maybe notthat's not the best first date idea with me specifically, but for the otherperson that you may be going to date with maybe they'll love it and you toend up together and getting married, have kids all that stuff or whateveryou want so yeah still up as you are ignore by advice, because, apparentlyjust you know do do what you want. I don't know what I'm talking about. I'mstill thunder out, sor your single and I'm still single. So I don't know, butyou know what I think it's, because we've learned that this is what we want,and this is what we're not going to put up with anymore and I'm not going towaste three months kind of you know: testing out the water. I've been theredone that and then there's three months that that have gone and again it goesback to your theme of respect. When you respect yourself you're, not you know,you're, not Goinna you're, going to see red flags, and that's going to beenough for you because you're going to move on and there will be somebody outthere and having fun, I think is so important. I think that's one thing Igot from watching Garrett is that he was so serious and the whole like funaspect, was kind of forced and it really wasn't natural. A maybe he'sjust not not a Wel, but I will say in inregards to that. It is a very stressful situation. Beingcoait was stressful forme, which is why some of my emotions came out the way that they did andforgarret to be the person who's making. All of the tough decisions who gets adate who goes home, who am I going to spend time with? Like you know, I Ithink it's just tough for anyone. I do not. I do think he he was fun like I think about our dat, like ourapple shoodal date was so fun an episode three like you only see likeour conversations in there, but we sat there for I sa you having fun W. Well,I lostthis I'm very goofy and silly, and I like making jokes like aboutmyself so yeah, that's just how I do my humor so like I ha my little like thingon my face and stuff. No, like that Wal we were he like an hour and a halfliterally an hour and a half making this apple studle baking it and all ofthat, and it was so fun. It's just. I think some of the tensor conversationsare kind of what come through, because those are what's important to like ourconnections and that's what Youe just Gointo, try yeah ye...

...it's funny when they have gay guys goon a cooking or a baking. It's like bitch, they don't eat, look at theirWAISTI, they don't eat. That was like honestly before I went to Austria. Iwas like very low car because I was like what, if there's a hot tub like Ijust need to like, like my best and that's honestly, that's that's not theway to live Your Life Li e as a personal trainer. I don't tell any ofmy clients ever do anything like that, but I just got in my own head and I waslike. Oh let me just like O. I don't want to say starve myself, let's justnot eat carvs only protein and only vegetables and nothing else, and I went a little crazy. What did you learn most about yourselffrom filming twelve days? Oh Gosh. What do I learn about myself?So you know I did learn a bit how much II've always known that I dislike rejection. You know, like I, haterejection and I've lot of insecurities around that we've growng upto the blackgame, an and seeing things people's profiles. You know not like feeling alike. I am less than and honestly the way the gay heart is blackmen Asian men,anyone who's dark, we are like considered less attractive, and so Ididn't necessarily realize just kind of how close to the surface. Thosefeelings were for me and a lot of my frustration and my emotions on the showhad less to do with Garrett and more to do with men and my life in my past, wholook like Heri, who have done really bad things to me, and it just broughtback all of these triggers and emotions, and so I learned that I just learned. I have a lot ofthat insideed me more than I thought I did at thirty years old. You know Istill have some of this some of this stuff, its just been built up overyears and years and years of dating and being disappointed, and I'm glad I went through this experience.I'm glad that I got to kind of confront that stuff head on, like normally, ifI'm emotional I'll go and sit at home, and just like not leave my house for aweekend and just like Bingh Watch TV and just like disassociate fromwhatever's going on, so I can like calm myself down and in this situation I was,I was the with cameras I was on. I couldn't really get away and I had tojust go through it and I think going through it ultimately made me realizesome things and it's going to make me stronger like for the next person Idate like I'm just going to really understand myself a bit more. What Iwant, what my insecurities are and maybe I'll handle them better, the nexttime around, because I'll know that I have these insecurities so close to thesurface that they won't just like come out of me in like this uncontrollable,like crying like the moment, you see me crying an episode to like you know youcan't really tell, but I was like sitting on the floor like bawling myeyes out and then like these cameras. Obviously, you know they come up andthey just you know they start asking me questions and it mmy breakdown in that moment was alot harder than I think it harder for me than I like it comes across becauseit was so short, but in reality it was like a little bit longer than that, and I must say I know, rambling, but Imust say that, like the straight Guy Kevin who showed up with me, he wasactually my rock. Through that whole experience. We had a lot ofconversations about like how I feel...

...what am I doing like, and I could leanon him for support. When I wasn't feeling like I was getting a support. Iwanted from Garrett, so it was, you know, I'm glad I had him there with mewell and also in showing your emotions and even communicating that withGarrett, that's another part of dating that we've kind of hit behind. I nowyou know we're ghost, seeing each other or well, Se may one word tax and wethink tha hats, communication. It's like it's okay, to call somebody ontheir action if they're daging and if it hurts you in a certain way, it'sokay to say I didn't like that. You did this or I need you to explain yourselfbecause I deserve it and again it's respect and you should be able to youknow: Gostiind. You should be able to Gok to the person say: THAT'S NOT COOL!Why I! This is how I feel towards you and you need to answer. You need totake responsibility right, and that was exactly what my goal was for thereunion I wanted to just speak my mind openly into Sombele, and I did andthere were no hard feelings to Gari, but I think he needed to reallyunderstand how I felt and what my emotions were about, because at onepoint he's you know he did say you know I think Corius wants attention. I'mlike this is not about attention. It's about the way. Your words are impactingme and making me feel about myself, and you need to understand that and I'mreally glad I got to have that conversation. I'm really glad that itwas there, and I got to just express that because I wasn't just irrationaland crazy for the sake of it. I was really feeling these big insecurities,because at the time I fel like I was being led on and I needed Sanda tostand up for myself and to send up for other people who have also been in thesituation, who didn't necessarily get like the opportunity to like confrontthe person about it. So you know going into the reunion. I said I need to saywhat I need to say now, so I can let it go. I nem to be at my piece and I needto make sure I am heard because me like you know I think Jose is his own storyand like him and Garret had their own stuff. But I just cared about me and Iwanted to talk about me and how I felt, because everything I feel is real andit's not just asmissible as I'm needy or winning attention. I literally havereal amounsens so, and I really think you could see how itaffected Garrett- and you know now in his dating journey, he's still singlehe's going to think twice, and I think I think everybody showing him how how they feltaffected his final decision. I was shocked and no spoiler alert for thosethat want to binge it like. I did because it's no, he makes a big decision at the endat I was surprised by and I don't think he would have made that decision if hewouldn't have learned to respect other people's feelings and respect himselfand what he wanted as well. I think that that was a perfect kind of end to his story, because it'snot an endto the story, it's just like res. This is where he's at now itdoesn't mean that's where anybody's...

...going to be a in a few months. Okay, sobut I'm goant to know all of these hot guys. You have your. You know two hourdates, but he the rest of the time you're wandering around this hugebeautiful castle, where ther any behind the sceme shenanigans. I not tentr. I will only speak for myself, but when you get kicked out of the castle,you do get sent to like another hotel before you fly back to the states, andso I got kicked out and then you know a couple days later, Zack gets kicked outand yes, I was with the Tata, Oh my godhe's, so corky and fun Ygoofy, andit's all him. It's so real, like off camera on camera. He is that person andI love him for it and he lives in Orgon. So, like we're super close, I'm inSeattle, now he talk. How do you by the way? Oh, oh, Hey- I don't know where heis right. Now he's probably working he's a flower farmer so he's out on thefields, I'm shore, but no, we so ZAC and I had a little bit of a moment inAustria in the hotel. But you know that was just a one time thing: WE'REFRIENDS! You know it's nothing! More than that. I think it was just we'reboth very frustrated. We're stuck in this hotel, a d guess what there's noother game in here and we like it. It was an emotional thing being in theshow and we got to get through those emotions together I'll say so. I love that Ga we're going to leave itat that. I know that there's some more stories there look I'm just going to talk about me.You have to ask the other people about themselves, but I'm Lord, you did whe. You got home from Filming,Oh my God, honestly, so I was living in La I movedto Seattle in Ma, and I got back from like Louisiana filming in March, andthe very first thing I did is, I think I went to like flaming saddles with myfriends in La because it was. It was still open and I was like I need tojust shill actually know it was chapel. We went to chapel, we were sittingthere like at the tables drinking and I was like. I need my girls like. Let'sjust talk and gossip, I need to unload all of this emotional baggage that Ijust went through and I need your like. I just needed my I neede D, my boys,and I think we just got. I don't know Idon', like I blacked out or anything, but I definitely drink e way too much,and I just like was living on that moment of. Let me get all this out ofme before. I go crazy and these these people that I've known in La are likeI've known them for like ten fifteen years. These are my best friends. Theyknow everything about me and the like family, so I just needed their support and it isn't it funny filming a big.You know a big part of your life. You know this was a journey for you, yeahit and then having to wait so many months and then having us go throughthis covid Insanitya political insanity. It isn't it weird to h film such agreat project and then have to sit on it, and it's like. Oh God, you justwant to share what you went through and yet ind life changed so dramatically,so we ickly. So we go to Austria and...

February. We come back in March, O comeLouisiana and then the world is shetting down and then George Floydhappens. Andthos all this social unrest. I moved to Seattle and like ptheelection stuff is happening and literally I think it was what eight anda half months between filming and then the first episode airing. I don't know,was that long, but it was a decent amount of time and I really couldn'tsay anything like a few people knew my family knew because they were like gavethe thumbs up to film. If I brought somebody home and yeah, it was just an emotionalroller coaster this year, but I do think it may be better. I think thelockdowns ave really allowed me to slow down. I move very fast through life,and I'm always thinking about the next thing and having to sit back andrealize. Where am I going? What am I going to do like? What am I? What makesme the happiest? I really just got to like sit at home and think about that.For, like I think, six months straight, I was not leaving my house that Budch Ibought dumb bells. I bought like a spin bike. I don't have to leave my housefor anything. I was doing like grocery food deliveries, so yeah this year. What has been insane,but I'm so thankful. I think I've become a better person through the showand through things that have happened outside of the show. I think I am likeon the path to success for the rest of my life, so I'm very happy well and I'mvery thankful for you sharing your story because it is great to see a dating journey. It's great to seesomebody that is so open to a relationship. It's great to seesomebody at home with their feelings, I'm not afraid to share that. So Ithank you for that. Are you? Are you ready to play a little rapid fire? Ohmy gosh, okay, let's go okay biggest red flag when dating somebody that youwill not ignore. Oh, my God, okay, rapid fires should befast right. Biggest Red Flag is, if you're, a slow, Textur, I'm sorryyou're sitting at home. You can respond to something in like a couple ofminutes: you're, not that muzzy. I don't care what you say. Oh my God, Itoally agree there Youou of thefothing or you're. Just not a priority, butnobody says. Oh, I didn't get your Tex Ball right, your phoneis, always inyour hand, alrays or it's in your pocket. You felt that thing vibrate,you decided not to respond. Like I'm sorry, I know what, if you ever, GoinTA response for me. That's really late! I'm Gointo tell you now it's becauseI'm ignoring you or I did it on purpose. I always know when I get a message likeit's just not. I is not a thing. I could be deadin. My Casket Blikeit,just texted me right who else in the castle would you havegone home with? I will say I was most attracted todominick. I saw him when I got kicked out and I really love a pretty face andlike a cute person, I love clean cut guys and he was the most clean cut. Ithin ste stevhen if him and I spent more time with each other. You don'tsee this, but we have like a moment one of the nights like on the couch gettingto know each other when Garrett was off with Jose and Stephen, and I like, ifwead spent more time together, I probably I could have gone home withhim honestly, you know: What's funny everybody love Dominig, everybody lovedOminic. He just reminded me a Brent...

Corigan. He looks like Brend, Cork andso oeoh Chris can't say his name Ronaldo. The soccer player he's likeyeah he's everything he is the body the face like I love it like is, I love apretty boy. He has a great smile and he's athletic and he's kind of a douchbag, and I love all of that. But did you think bfor plastic surgeryand before makeover pictures? Oh No. What did he look like? Why don't youGogle that you might be like? Oh Wow, wow? Well, I see him now. That's that'sall that matter. Okay, the Pastaatis, the worst Christmas gift you've everreceived the worst Pestonis, so the worst isjust not getting one. So I've dated men through the holidays and I don't thinkthey've ever ever gotten me a gift like we spend like Christmas Eve together orwhatever, but I've never gotten a gift, and that is a Shitty, because I lovegetting garts. I love gitting gifts and I've. Never gotten one from a man onChristmas, so that is is handdown wit, my work gift, all right, everybody. Sonow you know when you find into cors DM, then you have to also send a present.Yes, yes, please, en g. What would your drag name be? Oh my God, what Conda Sychs would be like made that up ears and I'm liketheras le I'm strong. So I like the Conda and it's just like it's likesomebody. Do Me and drag please, let's get it done. I would not look good,though I'm telling you now. I would not look good and drag, but I would totallylive my life, one thousand percent. That is made my day literally that'sthe fest ime ever okay, ell everybody where you want them to find you andfollow you. Yes, yes, yes, you can find me oninstagram twitter, Tick Tock. It is Coryla that is corey and my last nameis l Ay. Just like the chips find me. Let's chat, let's have fun. Let me knowyou thought of the show. I you thought I was crazy or not crazy. I just wantto hear it. I enjoy laughing at myself and if you can tell me a good jokeabout myself and my dramatics like, let's, let's do it, let's laughtogether. Well, I love chatting with you. Ireally needed this kind of pick me up before the holidays. For sure that hasbeen my chat with cory. You can read my indepth interview with him atNetrasorcom and that's our episode on your host Aeanda Rundrigis. You canfind me on Instagram at Alexand, is on air and until next time stay true andJo ou boo. That has been another metthof horse.Many black share subscribe on your favorite podcast player and check outthe latest issue of Metrocorse magazine on new stands or online at notecortscom.Follow us on Facebook, instagram at Tatsa Sourte and on twittere. That's acourse mat until next time, ta a.

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